my quest for experiences often means doing things that terrify me beyond any explanation. Proof of that is this Indoor Skydiving adventure with I Fly Seattle.
Anyone who knows me, knows that I want to have a life of experiences. I'm talking about big, scare the crap out of you, never regret missing out experiences. I do my best to do the things I have always wished I could do. Here’s the thing though, I let life get in the way sometimes. I don’t know why, but I guess I just let fear and anxiety get in my way. I suppose I’m not alone in this. There’s a multi-million dollar book industry out there called “self help” to prove that I’m not alone. We really are our worst enemy sometimes, or at the very least our biggest obstacle.
Why do we block our blessings when they are so obviously heading straight for us like a freight train? What are we so afraid of? Better yet, how do we move past this type of thinking? How do we move from fantasizing about the life we want and start living the life we want?
Yes, I do realize that the Denver Airport was not in fact trying to inspire me to take action with this sign. They really just wanted me to drive in circles until my person had arrived but inspiration comes in places you would least expect
I saw this sign at the Denver airport that said “no waiting” and it suddenly clicked. I now knew the answer to everything. I took my picture which you can see below and went on my way. For weeks afterward I sat myself down to reflect on what appeared so simple at the airport. Only it didn’t seem so simple anymore. “No Waiting”. The phrase and the picture (a photographic gem if I do say so myself. Thanks Hipstamatic) speak to me. I just can’t seem to fully hear what the words are really saying. It’s almost as if it is a whisper or worse, a riddle that I have to figure out. It can’t really be that easy, can it? Stop waiting?
Or can it?
You can't just decide to STOP WAITING. You have to put some action into it. Here is part of my action...goal setting each year with intention. This is no joke, it's a long process and not done alone, you need accountbility when you stop waiting and we are not the best at doing that for ourselves.
What happens if we stop waiting? Well…I suppose we stop waiting! But what are we waiting for anyways? Someone to tell us it’s okay to be happy, successful, content, delighted, loved? Come on, we are grown ass men & women here (excuse my language). We know our worth, right? We know that we deserve all of those things I listed and much more, right? We tell our friends and loved ones all the time, that they deserve better than what they are accepting, don’t we believe the same for ourselves?
I think we do. I KNOW I do.
The day I decided to stop waiting on top of a hike in New Mexico at Ojo Caliente New Years 2013
So, after a lot of time trying to complicate the matter I have decided to follow the direction of the sign, as I am convinced that it was just that, a sign. I am not going to wait. I’m gonna stop waiting for life to happen. I’m gonna stop waiting for someone to tell me what I think I want to hear. I’m gonna stop waiting for something easy to come along.
Here is where I buried all my excuses. In the middle of the hike I found a spot. Took out a piece of paper and wrote all of the negative thoughts and things that were making me wait to live. I buried them in the sand, said a little prayer and left them there in the middle of that cold New Mexican Desert. And guess what? Things started happening...
Now I’ve heard it all before, “you have to be patient” but I believe that there is a difference between patience and ambivalence. I think people live lives of ambivalence a lot of the time, waiting for someone, anyone to tell them it’s okay to LIVE and enjoy life, to experience it in all of its glory. So I will exercise patience when it is needed, but I will no longer wait for the sake of waiting.
I’m going after the life I want. I’m taking every opportunity to grab every piece of happiness, love, pure unadulterated joy, success and delight that I can and I’m bringing you with me, because…well why not?
Before I leave, I thought I would share a few quotes about waiting from some people who know/knew what they were talking about.