what kind of character are you?

"What are your best traits?" What are your worst traits". Suddenly we are at a job interview wracking our brains to come up with the perfect answers which are normally made up in some shape or from. Most of us can easily come up with our "worst" traits which in and of itself is a sad state of affairs. It is much more difficult for most of us to come up with our "best" traits.

When is the last time you gave yourself permission to say nice things to yourself? You are GORGE and guess what? SO AM I! It's time we own it.

When is the last time you gave yourself permission to say nice things to yourself? You are GORGE and guess what? SO AM I! It's time we own it.

Well, here is your chance to really take some time to be real with yourself. That's right...self reflection at it's best. Here are the question you will be asking yourself today...

  • what are your best character traits?

  • what are your worst character traits

  • what character traits did you develop this year.

how do you answer those questions? OR better yet

how do you answer those questions honestly?

I am good at creating experiences for myself and for others. (YUP, that is me in the horse head). I never owned this about myself before and am so happy to have finally realized that part of who I am and be able to do something with it and help create positive experiences for people that lift them up, give them an ah-ha moment and help them appreciate life.

I am good at creating experiences for myself and for others. (YUP, that is me in the horse head). I never owned this about myself before and am so happy to have finally realized that part of who I am and be able to do something with it and help create positive experiences for people that lift them up, give them an ah-ha moment and help them appreciate life.

Some things to consider...

  • what do people tell you they like about you?

  • what do they tell you that you're good at?

  • what do they ask your help with? (this is a great one to think about because it is not something we typically we think of)

One of my "best" traits is that of self reflection. But, OH SNAP, it is also one of my "worst" traits. YUP, you read that right. I think I am really good at taking time for myself and really trying to understand the life around me and the person I am. I know this is rare. Many people can't or don't take the time to do this. The other side of that coin though is that I can get lost in my head and beat a dead horse, if you will. I can think myself out of an idea and talk myself out of self love. I always have some sort of goal on my list to maximize the part of this trait that is positive and helpful and minimize the negative.

One of my "best" traits is that of self reflection. But, OH SNAP, it is also one of my "worst" traits. YUP, you read that right. I think I am really good at taking time for myself and really trying to understand the life around me and the person I am. I know this is rare. Many people can't or don't take the time to do this. The other side of that coin though is that I can get lost in my head and beat a dead horse, if you will. I can think myself out of an idea and talk myself out of self love. I always have some sort of goal on my list to maximize the part of this trait that is positive and helpful and minimize the negative.

on the flip side, consider thinking differently about your "worst" traits. Instead of jumping to make some long list of negatives, try thinking about the following:

  • what do you argue with people about?

  • what do your family and friends tease you about?

  • Sounds crazy do they tease you about being late ever? It probably means you have a reputation for being late, now that might not mean it is a negative trait but it is something to think about how you feel on it. 

  • what do you constantly talk to yourself about? Do you say..."I wish I could...." and you never end up doing that? Maybe that means there is a trait related to it that you are looking to change

I am a crier...like big time crier...like my siblings use to say "get the bucket" anytime we watched a movie because they knew I was going to be a puddle of tears. While I actually consider this a good trait it contradicts a trait of mine that I struggle with. I talk about and even let people see me cry but I don't actually open myself up to the actual emotion being felt and let people in. I keep it very surface and talk about the "what" instead of the "why" and I rarely if ever let people see my pain or insecurities in the moment. I will tell them after but joke it away and almost never ask for help when I am deep in that emotion. This is most certainly something I need to work on. Mostly because I know that it is related to trust and that when you trust people you get to love them and have them love you in return. What are we with out love? Definitely on my "needs work" list.

I am a crier...like big time crier...like my siblings use to say "get the bucket" anytime we watched a movie because they knew I was going to be a puddle of tears. While I actually consider this a good trait it contradicts a trait of mine that I struggle with. I talk about and even let people see me cry but I don't actually open myself up to the actual emotion being felt and let people in. I keep it very surface and talk about the "what" instead of the "why" and I rarely if ever let people see my pain or insecurities in the moment. I will tell them after but joke it away and almost never ask for help when I am deep in that emotion. This is most certainly something I need to work on. Mostly because I know that it is related to trust and that when you trust people you get to love them and have them love you in return. What are we with out love? Definitely on my "needs work" list.

dig deeper...

Once you have identified these things you can take a deeper look and spend some time understand where you might have made some changes for the good and/or bad during the year to get closer to the person you want to be. What traits did you develop this year? Was there something you paid special attention to and did that attention result in something good? something bad? something in between?

You might ask what this part is about and to be honest you might be able to skip it but I like to think about it because it helps set me up for the actual goal setting portion of this exercise. Remember this is a 31 day project. We start with self reflection because it helps us think about goals differently. Most people set goals in a vacuum and then wonder why they flat flat around February 1st. I think it is because they don't know the "why" behind what they are are asking for. Knowing the "why" helps us know the "how".

This one is probably going to be more intense but that just means we are getting where we need to be. So take some time here and make sure to be honest.

A final ask...If you feel compelled to comment, (and I hope you do) list one of your best traits. I'd love to hear how amazing you are.