I am a big sister to 5 younger siblings. There is 15 years that separate me, as the oldest from the youngest. We are a very tight knit group and of course as any birth order research will tell you, I am the caretaker of the group. This means I am often sought out for some advice.
I recently came a cross a letter I had written for my sister as she moved across the country to start a new adventure. As I read the letter, it dawned on me that some of the advice I provided would be good to share with some others, so I borrowed some of it and am sharing it with you.
it may not look like much here, but when you have only ever had the option to split regular tacos with your siblings and then one day the baby of the family orders a mexican pizza as if that is okay, trust me you want a mexican pizza.
When forced to make a choice; always choose Mexican pizza.
The taco vs. Mexican pizza dilemma has plagued many for years (at least in my family household it has.) When you choose Mexican pizza, you are saying “hey world, I do not accept your pre-set standards and rules, I make my own” and I deserve something different, something better, something more expensive than $.79.
sometimes the load is too heavy for one person, ask for help then pay them back with a beer or some kool-aid
Never be afraid to ask for help
We get it, you are an independent woman/man and you want to prove yourself by doing everything on your own but the biggest lesson to learn is that it is impossible to have it all and do it all without asking for a little help along the way. It is ok to be lonely, to be weak, to need a comforting word, a cup of sugar or help carrying your groceries. Everything is cyclical so just imagine all the goodwill that you are putting out in the world simply by giving someone else the chance to be of service to you.
Close your legs not your heart
I am not trying to call you a person of questionable morals. Sometimes as we grow up and sh*t gets real, because you are embarking on an adult life friends can change, responsibilities grow and all of that can leave you feeling lonesome. Many people better than us have tried to cure loneliness with a closed heart and open legs. I am simply implying that by opening your heart to new people and experiences you may cure the lonesome blues faster (plus it makes opening your legs a lot more fun, sorry Dad).
ok, so maybe this picture is cheating a bit but I said take the pictures, I didn't say you had to post them on the internet
Take lots of pictures in your bathing suit
Seriously, do you know how amazing your body looks in your twenties and thirties? Trust me, even when you feel fat and gross, you look amazing so pose for the pics as much as you can, you will thank me later.
Not everyone is going to tell you when you have toilet paper on your shoe. Luckily, some people will.
Not everyone is your friend
You are the best friend a person could ever ask for but sometimes you are everyone’s best friend and nobody is doing the same for you in return. One of the best lessons you can prepare yourself for in life, is knowing that some people are just associates. Friends, as it happens are actually quite rare. Knowing that some people are in your life to lead you to something, somewhere or someone else and knowing how to identify them along the way will lead you to better friendships that are real and lifelong.
This means knowing what friendship means for you. Not what you think you should do, but what do you really want from someone you call friend. Learn it now and seek it out.
This doesn’t mean all of those other people can’t be in your life, it just means the expectations are different and you should know the difference. And, maybe look down at your shoes for toilet paper when leaving a public restroom.
I decided to make this a series this week. So check back on Wednesday for 5 more pieces of vital life advice from my siblings big sister to you. (that's me by the way) so I guess I'll see you Wednesday.