events

Small Little Fiesta

Since moving back to Portland, I haven't had the opportunity to do many events (persoal or professional). Things have been so hectic, that part of my life and business didn't get a lot of love. That all changed last weekend. I had the honor of hosting a small little fiesta in honor of my Mom turning the big 60. (Yup, I just put her age on blast for the whole world wide web to see.)

sorry mom

I am guessing she should be too upset, because 60 is YOUNG especially to have 4 grown kids and still be kicking butt and taking names like a boss. I digress.

As most of you have probably experienced in your own life, buying a gift for your Mom is not always the easiest thing in the world to do. For most of their "mom existence" they get the short end of the stick, what with clay sculptures of their kids hands and macaroni art work. As I have gotten older, there are some years it is easier than others, a good concert or show comes to town, SCORE. But this was 60. I can't just run into Chico's and get her a chic outfit for the modern woman, that was so 59.

 I made an attempt to rent a dance floor for the ladies but my yard is not yet level so it didn't look or feel the way it should but it definitley got me excited about the idea of a permanent dance floor in my backyard. PROJECT!

I made an attempt to rent a dance floor for the ladies but my yard is not yet level so it didn't look or feel the way it should but it definitley got me excited about the idea of a permanent dance floor in my backyard. PROJECT!

It was for this reason that I chose to do one of the things I do best, host a little shin-dig. Apparently my mom and her friends are way cooler and more popular than I am because trying to nail down schedules was not the easiest task so at the last minute I just picked a date and hoped for the best. Sadly that meant some awesome ladies couldn't make it but we soldiered on.

If you read my last post you know that I am in a new house. What you may not know is that they house needs a LOT of work still but I figured if we did something on a warm summer night in the unfinished back yard and added some pretty lights I could probably get away with a good evening.

 Sorry potential stalkers, I blocked out my address. A girls has gotta  be safe, ya know.

Sorry potential stalkers, I blocked out my address. A girls has gotta  be safe, ya know.

I chose an easy and quick theme and hurried to create an invitation that would be festive and fun. Who doesn't want to attend a "fiesta"? I mean the word, the colors, the yummy food? It is just a guaranteed winner. So I sent it out to all my Mom's favorite lady peeps.

Then the real work began...menu and trying to figure out how to make my "really needs work" backyard into something halfway decent and worthy of the "fiesta" title. 

 table setting view...thank goodness some of the ladies took pictures on their phones.

table setting view...thank goodness some of the ladies took pictures on their phones.

getting crafty

 I would like to say that this paint is actually awesome. I have used it for a ton of other projects, it just didn't provide the sheen I wanted for the paper pinata...Love   Krylon Paint   though.

I would like to say that this paint is actually awesome. I have used it for a ton of other projects, it just didn't provide the sheen I wanted for the paper pinata...Love Krylon Paint though.

I tried to get crafty. Thanks to Pinterest, I always TRY and get craft...but my stuff NEVER looks like it does on Pinterest. I decided I would paint some pinatas and make them gold because in case you can't tell from my logo...

i love gold

 My before pictures were great, ahh the best intentions, but forgot to take any after pics, so this is the after, after, a few days later...gold scottie dogs.

My before pictures were great, ahh the best intentions, but forgot to take any after pics, so this is the after, after, a few days later...gold scottie dogs.

While they didn't turn out horrible, I totally used the wrong style of paint so it came out a little dull. I also totally forgot to take the eyeballs of the pinata first so with out eyeballs and color, they looked more like gold scottie dogs. Again, not awful but not what I was going for. I added some pink tassels and they still did the job. Sadly, this was not my first epic fail of the night.

I won't bore you with too many of the details but I figure the sign of any good party is the food and the booze so I thought I would at least share the menu with you and one of the epic fails related to the food. I found a great recipe. where else? Pinterest. It was for shrimp & chorizo skewers.

yum

First, let me tell you that i accidentally download ransomwaer software on my computer earlier the week. Because of that I lost every single file on my computer. OH YEAH, every single one. Crushing for my work. BUT, one of the lost files was my party planning deck. Yes, I am that kind of nerdy planner. Without it, my week completely got away from me and nothing happened as it should have.

 when life disingrates your skewers, you make deliciousness

when life disingrates your skewers, you make deliciousness

I not longer had my shopping list so I had to pull up the Pinterest pages while at the grocery store. Once there, the simple recipe I thought I found looked much more complicated and with way to many ingredients but I had already go the meat from the butcher so I did the unthinkable...

i wung it.

long story short. my skewers disintegrated on the grill. (yes I soaked them first but still...) I used some quick thinking, took it off the grill, sauteed it added some garlic, butter and cheese...turned out delicious. 

phew

Here is the rest of the menu. 

COCKTAILS (because, duh...)

  • Homemade Sangria

  • Margaritas (regular & guava)

APPETIZERS

  • Shrimp & Chorizo Skewers (minus the skewer)

  • Guacamole

  • Mango Salsa

  • Salsa

  • Green Salsa

DINNER

  • Chicken Enchiladas

  • Steak & Chicken Fajitas

DESSERT

 once the food came, the drink table got a little less pretty and a little more exciting

once the food came, the drink table got a little less pretty and a little more exciting

 man, I love food...

man, I love food...

The party never would have come together with out the help of a friend of mine from Purple Lilly Events. Toni helped with some of the food and the amazing cake. In general she was a life saver. Toni does all sorts of events but specializes in weddings. Check out her site by clicking her company name above.

That's it. It was a wrap. Happy Birthday to my wonderful Mom and big shout to all the ladies who attended and those who couldn't. It was a great night and such an awesome way to christen my new home for events.

 

till next week,

dawne

thank you for casting a vote for the kind of world you want...

I wanted to thank everyone for the overwhelming response to Wednesday's post: Bloomingdale's: another example of what is wrong with the profession of marketing". It was a difficult post for me to write because I struggled to be neutral. I am passionate about what I do and have a special place in my heart for marketing that is target to women because I understand what it means to capture the hearts and minds of the female consumer. There is power in supporting and lifting up women in today's culture like there has never been before. It is because of this that I fight for women every single day.

Your responses and readership to the post (my most successful post to date) let me know that there is outrage and concern out there. This concern doesn't just come from women but men as well. We want more from companies and brands and we will speak out about it and "vote with our wallets". It isn't about being a feminist or overly sensitive. It is about understanding the responsibility we hold when we broadcast a message to the world. You came in droves to read this post and whether that was out of curiosity, agreement or concern is irrelevant, you came, you read, you provided feedback both here and on social media and you shared. You may not realize this, but in doing that you helped support my purpose. This is no small thing to me. Thank you is not enough. 

If you see any marketing or advertising directed at women that you love and think lifts up women and girls, send them to  me. I would love to focus on the good stuff that is out there, and there IS good stuff out there. Let's talk about them and support their business...it's all about voting with our wallets.


goals require you put some skin in the game

I know I should have shared my goals with you before the 1st of the year and for that I apologize. If I am being honest, I started to a number of times but realized that like me, most of you probably were busy with friends and family and the hullabaloo that comes with the holiday and might not have the time to read blogs. So, I made the choice to wait until things settled a bit. 

This last step in the process is a little intense so I decided to only share with you one goal from each of my areas of focus. This way, you would be able to see the depth of information you should assign to each goal without getting mired in reading a 20 page blog entry.  


Health & Wellness

To Lose 25 Pounds by April 6, 2016

Goal:


Walk 10,000 steps or more each day

Eat 9 fruits or vegetables daily

No Fast Food

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to reduce sickness and allergy outbreaks

to be a better example to parents of why health is key

to boost self estee

Attach a Why:

 

 

 Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source:    Redfin

Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source: Redfin


financial stability, growth & flexibility

Buy a house by April 2016

Goal:


Work directly with financial adviser to allocate funds accordingly

limit wasteful spending - less trips to Target (sad but necessary)

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to create a home base (stability)

investment for future

To stop using frivolous spending as a creature comfort

Attach a Why:

 Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source:    @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com

Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source: @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com


purpose & passion

To book 5-10 speaking opportunities by June 2016

Goal:


Research local organizations, schools & universities for opportunities

Reach out to contacts with press-kit

build video profile on gigsalad and other speaker & experience forums

start writing

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


Create base audience for expansion

build experience and connections

opportunity to live my dream

this is where the dream starts - it is the conduit for all other changes & opportunities to happen

Attach a Why:


love & relationships

NOTE: This was the most difficult one for me to work on this year and to share in a public forum. Because of this it may seem the least thought out. Please understand that it is very thought out but I am still working on understanding what this means for me. Like most things in life, it is a serious work in progress.

Meaningful conversations and meetings with loved ones monthly

Goal:


Talk to people, don't rely on text

Work to meet new people

Call and meet "just because"

no technology distractions

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


It's no fun being alone and harder to maintain friendships as we age and people get married and have kids

find someone to share experiences, travel etc. with

to open up and trust more - being open to experiences and people

Attach a Why:


There you have it. A goal for each of my areas of focus in 2016. Hopefully this helps you commit your goals to paper and get 2016 off to a great start. Thanks for sticking with the 31 day goal setting challenge and sharing your experiences with me in the comments, emails and in social media. 2015 was a strange and interesting year. There were a lot of changes in my life with health and work and even location but I know like most storms, clear skies are ahead. Thank you for sticking with me and showing interest in what I have to say and helping be a witness to my adventure. Looking forward to great things in 2016.

habits make the man...err...woman

Anytime you make a goal or decide to "fix" something in life it is going to require some changes in your habits.

agggghhhhh

If you have ever walked around a bookstore then I'm sure you have noticed that people talk a lot about "change" and "habits" in self-help books. Apparently, that is because as a culture, we don't tend to enjoy change so much. How else do you explain the popularity of a book called "Who Moved my Cheese"?

habits make the man...err. woman

Let's define habits based on the categories we listed on Monday that might help us meet our more specific goals that we finalize next week. As a reminder, here are the categories, I am focused on.

  • health & wellness

  • love & relationships

  • financial stability, growth & flexibility

  • purpose & passion

Did you define your's yet? NO? Well don't forget to check out Monday's post to catch up with us. "What are you going to pay attention to in 2016?" Once you have your categories of focus, it is time to determine what habits need to be part of our daily life to help us along our journey. Here are some of mine. Remember, try to have no more than 12. When you focus on too much, very little actually happens.

  • wake up with out snoozing

  • take vitamins daily

  • walk/work out daily

  • stop the glorification of busy

  • no fast food - cook more - more veggies

  • stretch daily

  • stop over-exaggerating and being overly dramatic - be okay with reality

  • love & relationships

  • initiate communication with friends & family better

  • remember special days and do things just because

  • gratitude journal and meditation daily

  • news/blogs - focused on my purpose

  • It's on the DVR, you can watch it later

 I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

There you go, my...now it is your turn. It's the last step until we put pen to paper with a goal for each area of focus.

Can't wait to close out the challenge with all of you.

what are you going to pay attention to in 2016?

 It doesn't have to look pretty...thank goodness, you just have to do it.

It doesn't have to look pretty...thank goodness, you just have to do it.

Remember in school when you were given a writing assignment and you just went in and wrote your paper. It was a good paper. You were on fire. I mean, it may have been the best writing the world had ever seen, we're talking possible Pulitzer here. 

then you turned it in.

There were red  marks all over it. How dare someone mess with the next great american literature masterpiece! There was one glaring consistency in the red scribble across the page...did you make an outline first? Where is the structure?

After muttering under your breath, you think to yourself "how the heck did the teacher know I didn't do an outline or a rough draft?" or maybe you thought "my kind of literary genius doesn't need a rough draft." 

don't act like you never thought it...

Well, just like high school English class, it is important to outline your goals before you  just jump in all willy nilly. You want to make sure you know what direction you want your goals to head. In short, it helps to define where you want to focus your energies.

i promise this won't hurt

It is actually really simple, think about all of the notes you have been taking and the thoughts you have had about what you might want to focus on in 2016 and then put them into some overarching categories. Don't overdue it. Sometimes we set so many goals, it is impossible to focus on all of them. This will help you reduce and refine once you get to your overall goals. 

List the core areas of life you want to get results

Here is an example of my categories to help spark some creative thinking...

  • Health & Wellness

  • Love & Relationships

  • Financial Stability & Growth & Flexibility

  • Purpose & Passion

That's it. That is all you have to focus on today. Later in the week we will start actually putting our goals down into the areas of focus you specified and be on our way to starting kicking butt in 2016.

If you have questions, don't hesitate to ask them in the comment section below.

silencing women does not create peace on earth

I am taking a break from our goal setting challenge today because of a news story that has been making the rounds and causing some controversy.

 Silencing the women in a family is not funny. 

Silencing the women in a family is not funny. 

A family from Louisiana decided to do something a little different for their Christmas card this year. Upon doing so a firestorm was created on social media . Before I go on, let me stress that in no way do I think that this family or photographer intended to promote violence against women (as many of the comments on social media elude to). I do however think that this points to a larger problem, this family didn't see why this image might be sending the wrong message

So, why is it the wrong message? This picture  creates the illusion that silencing women of all ages is okay.

it is not!

It implies that getting women to shut-up can be celebrated with a thumbs up.

it cannot!

It implies that silencing a woman can be laughed at with a witty tagline.

it cannot. 


Research shows that the first step to violence and terrorism against any group of people is that of dehumanizing them. Making them less than human by reducing them to a body part or an object, or even by silencing them. All of this is destructive but the silencing is the one that hits me the hardest.

It can be argued that most people are looking to be heard. What happens when we take that option away? When we take away a person's voice, we take away their ability to fight, to be heard, to be understood. We become less than in our own head. We become unhappy, unsatisfied, uninspired. 

 Rather than ramble on about the research, check out this amazing series by    Jean Kilbourne    to learn more about gender in the media.

Rather than ramble on about the research, check out this amazing series by Jean Kilbourne to learn more about gender in the media.

Some of you may be reading this and think that I am giving this photo/concept way too much energy but you would be wrong. There is a wealth of evidence to back me up. 

I studied "communications" in school. I decided it had a broader reach than a traditional marketing degree. With this I chose to spend a large part of my time studying gender and kids. I knew that this is the direction that the business world was going and wanted to better understand the consumer that I would potentially be marketing too. I now work in marketing and realize the approach I took is rare. Very few if any marketers actually take course work focused on gender, psychology or sociology. Maybe a class here or there, but no real emphasis on it. This is why I struggle with my profession.  At it's core, marketing is convincing people to buy, do or act. It works with the psyche and what motivates people. It is great responsibility. 

Unfortunately, it seems sometimes like marketers are worse than the stereotypes of lawyers. I say that because in my experience very few people in marketing actually know anything beyond the "business" part of marketing. Marketing is so much more than that. It is about knowing how people think, what they desire and why and using that information for good. How can you do this if you don't know anything beyond the numbers?

Marketing shapes the way we look at the world, whether we like to admit it or not. Marketing and media shapes the way we see and feel about ourselves subconsciously, it convinces us what we want and what we need. Herein lies the responsibility. Do we use this power to do good and make the world better or do we use it to make a buck? Are they mutually exclusive? 

I would argue they are not.


 From Killing Me Softly

From Killing Me Softly

We live in a visual society, one that puts emphasis on "seeing is believing". Instagram has exploded on the scene, as has Snap Chat and a number of other social networks that focus solely on imagery. A picture is worth a thousand words, right? If it is that how can we remain complacent with imagery like this family photo or any of the images on this post? How can we claim ignorance as to what these image are really saying?

How can you call yourself a marketer if you don't know how consumers digest the imagery and content you are putting in the universe?

my opinion? you can't.

I could continue to go on about this but realize this is an much bigger subject than a single blog post. So I will come down from my soap box for a minute and get back to the point Did this family have ill intent when creating this holiday card? of course not. Does it speaker to a larger problem in our society? Of course it does. I couldn't let today go by without at least addressing it. I won't apologize for this big soap box because I believe so full heartedly in it but I will work to better formulate my thoughts for future posts.

 

I would like to say one more thing regarding the "witty tagline" that says "peace on earth". The silencing of women will not create "PEACE ON EARTH". In fact, it is the attempted silencing of women that is causing so much destruction, war and terror on this place we called Earth. 

extra...extra...read all about it, this girl's got style ya'll

I don't know if you know this or not but I'm not always considered "fashionable". You're shocked aren't you? I know, I am too. I love fashion, don't get me wrong. I love picking out outfits and putting them together but I guess when you are more comfortable in sweats and flip-flops than spanx and heels you don't exactly build a reputation for being "super stylish".

That being said, the fashion world is taking notice of little old me. Oh, yeah, you read that right. In October I had the honor of speaking for Fashion Group International of Greater DC. The catch is, I wasn't actually speaking about what I was wearing, although I guess I should be happy it wasn't some sort of "Fashion Police" or "What Not To Wear" sneak attack. (Although, how cool would it be to meet Clinton Kelly? YES PLEASE, I love him.)

WOW SQUIRREL...

Anyway...I got to speak to a group of retailers, designers and business owners about the mysteries behind the business of retailing in a fashion world. We talked about consumer segments, social media, merchandising and the challenges of small retailers in an increasingly online world. To add to this, FGIDC and their members put together a stellar panel of experts and asked me to moderate as they shared their experiences and challenges in the industry.  

 Talking to the group about the rise of women in the economy and how it influences the way they retail.

Talking to the group about the rise of women in the economy and how it influences the way they retail.

My outfit might not have been totally up to par but I'm working on it with the help of The Written Runway so look out fashion world I'm coming for you.

In the mean time, check out the awesome write up from FGIDC that they posted this week. Maybe titling this post,  "this girl's got style" was a little overzealous but I had to get your attention somehow right?

Hope you're crushing the goal challenge this week. Don't forget to check out all the posts in December and join the challenge with us.

 Click here to read the article and check out all of the awesome stuff Fashion Group International in Greater DC is doing. Special thanks to the team at FGIDC, the panel of experts and the city of DC for a fun and informative session. Shout out to    AnDCreatives Duo    for the great images and video.

Click here to read the article and check out all of the awesome stuff Fashion Group International in Greater DC is doing. Special thanks to the team at FGIDC, the panel of experts and the city of DC for a fun and informative session. Shout out to AnDCreatives Duo for the great images and video.

joy comes in the morning

In November we are constantly bombarded with the thought of "gratitude and thanksgiving" but for December I think that word has got to be "joy". Just about every song you can think of that talks about the holiday's mentions the word. (The below one just happens to be one of my favorites.

It is with this in mind that we continue our goal setting process with a focus on joy. It is a simple question really...

what brought you joy this year?

I don't mean, "what made you happy". Anyone can talk about what makes them happy but what actually brought you true JOY in 2015. Joy is a much different focus. Joy comes in small moments and is almost always unexpected.

here is what I think you should consider when trying to decide what truly did bring you joy this year.

  • the people in your life that you spent time with and left feeling good

  • accomplishments you made

  • moments of peace

I don't think it is a secret that for me joy came in the form of my little nephew this year. I also realize that I probably sound like a broken record when I talk about him but  it was truly a big thing. My decision to move home seemed to validated by the birth of Otis because there is not a single person who has me me smile or laugh more in the past 8 months than that little guy. When I was sick, in bed, back and forth to the doctor's and not wanting anyone to see me, this kid would make me smile and laugh out loud. But more than that it was the joy in knowing that he had been brought into the life of my brother and his wife and completed their family. Knowing that they had the missing piece to their puzzle brought a level of joy I didn't expect.

So, as you work on this question today, think about the different kinds of joy around you.

 

learning something new, don't be scared, no talent required

We have all heard the quote from Eleanor about doing things that scare us but what about just learning new things, even if they don't scare us? Don't worry I'm not now going to list all of the reasons you should learn something new. Well, full disclosure I WAS going to do that but as I started to research the topic I noticed that the only stuff I could find was stuff from other blogs. Apparently it is a popular thing to blog about. Rather than join the crowd and list all these stats and information, I am instead going to share my experience learning something new recently.

Most of my siblings are very artsy and crafty. While I have spent most of my life trying to be artsy, it never quite came to fruition. That being said, I never stop trying. It is for this reason that I recently decided to take a class in calligraphy. I see all these people on blogs and instagram that do the coolest stuff with their handwriting and that is NOT what my handwriting looks like so I figured why not try something new?

If I'm going to learn something new, I'm not just gonna let anyone teach me, I need the best. Enter Laura Hooper Calligraphy's workshop in Washington DC. Laura is at the top of her game and still makes time to teach people around the country all about her craft. It was a great day full of beautiful flowers by EightTreeStreet Floral Design, ONEHOPE wine, Belvoir Fruit Farms, snacks and a fantastic space at Karson Butler Events DC.

Here are a few great pictures of the day courtesy of AnDCreatives

 I'm feeling very artsy after a glass or two of the wine...

I'm feeling very artsy after a glass or two of the wine...

 I seriously cannot get enough of these flowers from    EightTreeStreet Floral Design

I seriously cannot get enough of these flowers from EightTreeStreet Floral Design

 wine and flowers, I'm sold. thanks to    BelvoirFruitFarms    and    ONEHOPE wines

wine and flowers, I'm sold. thanks to BelvoirFruitFarms and ONEHOPE wines

 homemade goodies by Emily of    Karson Butler Events

homemade goodies by Emily of Karson Butler Events

 This makes me look like the class clown for sure...(that may have been the case for real though)

This makes me look like the class clown for sure...(that may have been the case for real though)

 learning the proper technique for using the nib and ink together. I look super legit, pretty sure Laura would be proud...

learning the proper technique for using the nib and ink together. I look super legit, pretty sure Laura would be proud...

 practice makes perfect....hmmm...

practice makes perfect....hmmm...

 I may or not have taken these flowers with me...It was a great day.

I may or not have taken these flowers with me...It was a great day.

what new thing are you learning this week?

a lot of you want a job but you don't want to work. are you gonna step up and be charles barkley or what?

Recently, the entire basketball community was saddened to hear that a revered NBA player by the name of Moses Malone passed away. Malone was named one of the NBA's 50 greatest players.

Charles Barkley who played with him in the beginning of his career in Philadelphia was asked to speak at the funeral.  During his eulogy he spoke of the role Malone took in his career and called him a father to him. He made quite a few humorous remarks from their days together but there was one piece of advice that Charles received that stood out the most to me. Malone was chastising Barkley for his laziness. When Charles protested this assumption, Malone told him the following:

a lot of you want a job (career) but you don’t want to work.
— Moses Malone - NBA Hall of Famer

The advice is simple and each of us at some point in our life may have received some sort of similar advice but I wonder if we have really heard this for what it is meant to be. It is mean to be a call to action. 

Suddenly it seems we have a culture of laziness in our country. People have higher expectations and are more optimistic than any other time in history. Apparently as a country we have raised confident and optimistic children. The country has also produced a very lazy work force. These two wouldn't seem like they go together but the truth is that the confidence that has been created has developed completely independent of the idea of work. 

With the advent of microwaves, computers and cell phones, our society waits for nothing. The answer to virtually every single question is at our fingertips in ways it has never been before. Nobody has to actually be patient anymore. Because of this, people expect success and money to come quick. The focus is now on labels and dollars. 

Today people are anxious to move ahead, to make more money, have a fancy title, receive perks etc. Generally in my experience there are three types of people in the workplace

  • money is the priority

  • titles and forward movement are the priority

  • head down, work hard and hope someones gives me an opportunity

the first two groups tend to be the squeakiest wheels of the group. They were taught to speak up and ask for what they wanted, they were told they were the best, they were told that anything is possible  

they had money and all that goes with that. This is not to imply that everyone is rich but parents of the last couple of generations worked hard to provide their children with things they never had so 5 year olds have i-phones and i-pads. High school kids wear designer labels as the rule instead of the exception now. 

Very few have heard the word no.

I originally wrote this post weeks ago and put it on hold because I know it may be controversial so let me clarify something...not all "millenials" are like this...not all parents coddle their children...no all who never hear the word no end up being lazy. But as a general society/culture I think we can all agree that there is a marked difference between the world we live in today and that of the past when we talk about work ethic and effort. I don't blame parents, teachers or anyone else. I blame the computer, the cell phone, social media...yup I said it. The reason that people don't know the difference between hard work and a sense of entitlement is simple, they don't have to. When everything is so easily accessible things like that get swept away. 

How do we then convince people that laziness isn't in their best interest and that they do in fact have to "work for" whatever it is they want? I'm going to share a little secret with you, as with most of the the things I write about, I have no idea the answer to this question. I can only share my experience. My experience, just like yours is the most amazing tool for education, here are a few of the things it has taught me. 

Mentors change everything - Just like Charles, I too have had people call me out on my crap and when someone you respect and admire does that, it does something to you. I mean, Harry would have been nothing without Dumbledore and I think we all know that.

Who is your Dumbledore?


Never underestimate the power of a good failure - yeah yeah yeah...Jordan failed a million times and didn't make his high school team...blah blah blah. It's easy to spout out quotes like that but the most driven people take failure as a personal affront...they get mad and instead of taking out on someone else they use it to challenge themselves for the next big thing...

what wonder has occurred because of you failing?


People are always worried about Bob. "What about Bob?" What Bob is doing is none of your business. Do you want to be average or do you want to be amazing? If it is the latter then why would you compare what Bob "gets" away with or does to you? Who cares what he does? It matters what you do and if you spend a chunk of your time worry about Bob, you get less done.

more like "who cares about bob", am I right?


Some people just have bad taste. It's true...I mean did you know there are people out there who DO NOT like ice-cream? I mean how is that even possible? If people can turn down the creamy deliciousness that is mint chocolate chip then obviously those people might not think you are so great either. But like I said, not everyone has good taste so just on't get them something the next time you are in the Baskin Robbins drive-thru line. (YES they do have those.)

do you care if they like your flavor?


so I guess the real question is...

do you want to be Charles Barkley or do you want to be a Carl Herrera?

(no offense Carl, sure you're a stand up dude.)

but the answer is always gonna be...

always be charles barkley

in my book anyway.


so, who are you gonna be? tell me below...