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Who, What & Why - Finding Purpose

I recently had a discussion with a fellow consultant about the struggles of owning your own company and making the right decisions for growth. During the process of this conversation, the idea of worth was brought up.

I then went on to talk to other business owners in my network to ask them how they felt about their business and "worth" came up again. Just about everyone in my network who was in some way, shape or form "self employed" or a "small business owner" repeated similar statements.  The statement?

When I build a proposal, and choose my rates, I often think they will laugh me out of the room because who am I to think I deserve to charge people?
— Multiple colleagues

It was this or some version of this time and time again. I find it strange that despite a laundry list of qualifications and experience, people (especially women) still feel insecure about asking for what they deserve. Why is this?

I could go on with a long list of "tips for negotiation" but I have to admit, I don't really believe in all of that. Studies tell us that women are seen as negative when negotiating or asking for they want, yet most of the advice for negotiating tactics are "gender neutral" so how does that really help?


I think instead, it is about knowing your own value. At the end of the day, no matter what negotiating tactic we take, it means nothing if we don't actually believe in what we are selling. If we are being honest, what we are selling in ourselves, and our ability to deliver positive outcomes for our clients. I realize that this leads to the bigger question of "how do we find value in ourselves?"

What do you do?

Why do you do it?

Who do you do it for?

For me this generally comes down to three simple questions that get to the heart of finding your purpose. You see, once we know our purpose and you add that with our experience there is no reason to doubt if or how much you should charge. Because you know you will not only deliver results but you will enjoy doing it. So what are the three questions?

Deep, right? This Tedx Talk does a great job of giving you an exercise to ask just those questions and understand your purpose in 5 minutes. (You gotta love Ted.) The only way to get ahead in business is to know your own value and believe it. Shout it from the rooftops if you have to. Don't mistake confidence for cockiness but express yourself in a way that is true to what you do, why you do it and who you do it for.

After you watch the video tell me your answers to his questions in the comments below. Ok, Ok, I will go first...

I am a storyteller whose goal is to empower, educate, inform and motivate others to follow after their own purpose and passion using drive and hustle to get there. While I put an emphasis on young girls and women, I feel everyone can benefit from this type of storytelling.

Girls Inc. PNW Purse-0-Nality of 2016

Today, I am thrilled to tell you that I am one of the final nominees for the Girls Inc. Pacific Northwest "Purse-o-Nality of 2016". This is part of their Power of the purse program they hold each year.

Power of the Purse was created ten years ago to raise awareness about the importance of economic independence for women. Over the past ten years the event has raised over a million dollars in net revenue to support Girls Inc. programming.
— Girls Inc. Pacific Northwest Website

Girls Inc.'s mission is to inspire girls to be strong, smart and bold while empowering girls and an equitable society. If you have ever met me then you know that this is exactly the type of organization that I want to shout from the rooftops about. Helping girls realize the strength they have within and become strong, independent, vocal members of society. This, in my humble opinion should be everyone's goal. When women win, we all win. Today it is such a blessing to have organizations like Girls Inc., Girl Up and Lean In, etc. because it represents an awareness of this need in our society. I am honored to be even considered for such an opportunity because my hope is to one day be a catalyst for female empowerment, confidence and financial security whenever I can.

Rather than blab on for paragraphs about my excitement. I would rather direct you to the Girls Inc. Pacific Northwest website so that you can learn all about their mission. I would also like to ask you for your help. Click on any of the images on this page to visit the Girls Inc. website and read all about the women that are nominated this year and vote. While I would obviously love for you to vote for me, my real ask is simply that you vote for someone on this list. All of the women who are nominated are doing great things to honor and build up other women in our community. Passion, purpose and effort like that deserves to be supported. So, vote for me, vote for them...JUST VOTE and support Girls Inc. and their mission.

Till next time, keep supporting positive content on the internet. Check out any of the organziations I mentioned in this post by clicking on their logos below.