goals

we all fall down sometimes but are you going to do this or what?

Now that I am back in action on this blog thing, I realized that I missed the mid-year check in on my goal setting for the year. YES, even people who blog about setting goals, sometimes lose sight of them. I get busy, some fire alarm needs to be addressed and the goals go to the wayside. Basically, life gets in the way.

While it stings a little to lose sight of your goals and admit failure, it is also the most honest and authentic part of the process. 

we all fall down sometimes

So this picture right here is totally a #waybackwednesday but surprising and thank my lucky stars I actually don't have a ton of pictures of me falling down. What worries me is who else might...yikes. oh and Go SEAHAWKS

So this picture right here is totally a #waybackwednesday but surprising and thank my lucky stars I actually don't have a ton of pictures of me falling down. What worries me is who else might...yikes. oh and Go SEAHAWKS

Coming to terms with that realization is probably the biggest indicator of ultimately meeting your goals in the end. It is an indicator because of the hard conversation you have to have with yourself when you do slack off or fall down. It is in that moment when you  have to make the decision of whether your goal really means something to you or not. It is in this moment when you are faced with a challenge that you get to decide 

am i doing this or not?

Full transparency here? If I hadn't of scrolled through some old blog posts, I may have forgot all about my 2016 goals UNTIL I sat down to write my 2017 goals. I could have skated for the rest of the year but...and here is the rub, I hate losing. I am uber competitive even when I know I have no chance of winning. 

and competing with myself? Oh man, that's when the real competitor comes out. I am my biggest critic. It should be known, however, that I am also my biggest fan. I just expect a lot along the way. I want to be sure that when I am cheering myself on, it is because of something great. 

So, all of that is to say, I didn't do too well in the first half of the year. 

Let's take a look at the scorecard. If you want to hold me accountable check out the original post "Goals Require You Put Some Skin in the Game."

In my defense, I have had some foot issues that have prevented any kind of major exercise. HOWEVER, that does not excuse the extra food I was eating and not burning off. #noexcuses

In my defense, I have had some foot issues that have prevented any kind of major exercise. HOWEVER, that does not excuse the extra food I was eating and not burning off. #noexcuses

Lose 25 Pounds by April 6, 2016

I am giving myself a giant F here. Not only did I not lose any weight, I actually gained some weight since I made the goal. How did this happen? It is simple. I blamed being busy when in reality, I was being lazy and didn't follow any of the guidelines I set in place to hit the goal. I got back on the wagon last week with food and this week with some light exercise so I am going to re-instate this goal. 

One way to get me moving here? I have a bet with a co-worker to lose the weight by our Christmas party, December 4th. There is big money on the line but more important is pride.  Remember when I told you I was competitive? I was not joking. I can not let my co-worker win. He is going DOWN! - goal back in action.

Maybe I was just waiting for this dope address?

Maybe I was just waiting for this dope address?

Buy a house by April 2016

For this I will actually give myself an A-. I did in fact buy a house, it just happened a month late. The whole process took much longer than I had anticipated in this crazy Portland housing market  But I am on board now and know I am going to have to really focus on my financial goals for 2017 to keep the momentum going.

A great session in March with the    "Retail Optical Circle"    brought to you by Vision Ease and Zyloware

A great session in March with the "Retail Optical Circle" brought to you by Vision Ease and Zyloware

Book 5-10 Speaking Gigs by June 2016

I will rate this a solid C. I have booked some gigs, although not quite 10, I did meet the minimum number. The only reason I am not grading higher is because I didn't actually do a lot to get these gigs. I got so wrapped up in the new house and my "day job" that I didn't actually focus on the tasks I had outlined for myself. The jobs I did book were due to word of mouth and recommendations, which by the way is AWESOME. It, however doesn't let me off the hook for doing what I set out to do. That means I am re-instating this goal as well and will finish what I started by the end of November 2016.

Randomly this picture was taken on the day I was supposed to have met all of my goals in April. Oops.

Randomly this picture was taken on the day I was supposed to have met all of my goals in April. Oops.

Monthly connections with friends and family

This is harder to rate. In some ways I have made headway in this and in others I have let the day to day get in the way of what I really wanted to do here. I will also admit that this was the most lackadaisical of the goal I set for myself and didn't have a lot of meat to it, which is probably why it is so hard to rate. I have made a heck of an effort when it comes to my adorable little nephew but probably haven't done the best at keeping in touch with friends, especially the ones who are out of state. I think I need to better understand how I want to execute this one before I re-instate it so that I am setting the right expectation. In the end it is mainly about not becoming a hermit.

How are you progressing towards the goals you set for yourself this year? Have you fallen off? Is it time to re-engage and recalibrate? If so, join me in re-committing yourself to your goals and lets end 2016 better than we started it. 

Thanks go out to    ponder & muse    for the cool graphic

Thanks go out to ponder & muse for the cool graphic

goals require you put some skin in the game

I know I should have shared my goals with you before the 1st of the year and for that I apologize. If I am being honest, I started to a number of times but realized that like me, most of you probably were busy with friends and family and the hullabaloo that comes with the holiday and might not have the time to read blogs. So, I made the choice to wait until things settled a bit. 

This last step in the process is a little intense so I decided to only share with you one goal from each of my areas of focus. This way, you would be able to see the depth of information you should assign to each goal without getting mired in reading a 20 page blog entry.  


Health & Wellness

To Lose 25 Pounds by April 6, 2016

Goal:


Walk 10,000 steps or more each day

Eat 9 fruits or vegetables daily

No Fast Food

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to reduce sickness and allergy outbreaks

to be a better example to parents of why health is key

to boost self estee

Attach a Why:

 

 

Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source:    Redfin

Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source: Redfin


financial stability, growth & flexibility

Buy a house by April 2016

Goal:


Work directly with financial adviser to allocate funds accordingly

limit wasteful spending - less trips to Target (sad but necessary)

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to create a home base (stability)

investment for future

To stop using frivolous spending as a creature comfort

Attach a Why:

Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source:    @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com

Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source: @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com


purpose & passion

To book 5-10 speaking opportunities by June 2016

Goal:


Research local organizations, schools & universities for opportunities

Reach out to contacts with press-kit

build video profile on gigsalad and other speaker & experience forums

start writing

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


Create base audience for expansion

build experience and connections

opportunity to live my dream

this is where the dream starts - it is the conduit for all other changes & opportunities to happen

Attach a Why:


love & relationships

NOTE: This was the most difficult one for me to work on this year and to share in a public forum. Because of this it may seem the least thought out. Please understand that it is very thought out but I am still working on understanding what this means for me. Like most things in life, it is a serious work in progress.

Meaningful conversations and meetings with loved ones monthly

Goal:


Talk to people, don't rely on text

Work to meet new people

Call and meet "just because"

no technology distractions

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


It's no fun being alone and harder to maintain friendships as we age and people get married and have kids

find someone to share experiences, travel etc. with

to open up and trust more - being open to experiences and people

Attach a Why:


There you have it. A goal for each of my areas of focus in 2016. Hopefully this helps you commit your goals to paper and get 2016 off to a great start. Thanks for sticking with the 31 day goal setting challenge and sharing your experiences with me in the comments, emails and in social media. 2015 was a strange and interesting year. There were a lot of changes in my life with health and work and even location but I know like most storms, clear skies are ahead. Thank you for sticking with me and showing interest in what I have to say and helping be a witness to my adventure. Looking forward to great things in 2016.

habits make the man...err...woman

Anytime you make a goal or decide to "fix" something in life it is going to require some changes in your habits.

agggghhhhh

If you have ever walked around a bookstore then I'm sure you have noticed that people talk a lot about "change" and "habits" in self-help books. Apparently, that is because as a culture, we don't tend to enjoy change so much. How else do you explain the popularity of a book called "Who Moved my Cheese"?

habits make the man...err. woman

Let's define habits based on the categories we listed on Monday that might help us meet our more specific goals that we finalize next week. As a reminder, here are the categories, I am focused on.

  • health & wellness

  • love & relationships

  • financial stability, growth & flexibility

  • purpose & passion

Did you define your's yet? NO? Well don't forget to check out Monday's post to catch up with us. "What are you going to pay attention to in 2016?" Once you have your categories of focus, it is time to determine what habits need to be part of our daily life to help us along our journey. Here are some of mine. Remember, try to have no more than 12. When you focus on too much, very little actually happens.

  • wake up with out snoozing

  • take vitamins daily

  • walk/work out daily

  • stop the glorification of busy

  • no fast food - cook more - more veggies

  • stretch daily

  • stop over-exaggerating and being overly dramatic - be okay with reality

  • love & relationships

  • initiate communication with friends & family better

  • remember special days and do things just because

  • gratitude journal and meditation daily

  • news/blogs - focused on my purpose

  • It's on the DVR, you can watch it later

I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

There you go, my...now it is your turn. It's the last step until we put pen to paper with a goal for each area of focus.

Can't wait to close out the challenge with all of you.

what are you going to pay attention to in 2016?

It doesn't have to look pretty...thank goodness, you just have to do it.

It doesn't have to look pretty...thank goodness, you just have to do it.

Remember in school when you were given a writing assignment and you just went in and wrote your paper. It was a good paper. You were on fire. I mean, it may have been the best writing the world had ever seen, we're talking possible Pulitzer here. 

then you turned it in.

There were red  marks all over it. How dare someone mess with the next great american literature masterpiece! There was one glaring consistency in the red scribble across the page...did you make an outline first? Where is the structure?

After muttering under your breath, you think to yourself "how the heck did the teacher know I didn't do an outline or a rough draft?" or maybe you thought "my kind of literary genius doesn't need a rough draft." 

don't act like you never thought it...

Well, just like high school English class, it is important to outline your goals before you  just jump in all willy nilly. You want to make sure you know what direction you want your goals to head. In short, it helps to define where you want to focus your energies.

i promise this won't hurt

It is actually really simple, think about all of the notes you have been taking and the thoughts you have had about what you might want to focus on in 2016 and then put them into some overarching categories. Don't overdue it. Sometimes we set so many goals, it is impossible to focus on all of them. This will help you reduce and refine once you get to your overall goals. 

List the core areas of life you want to get results

Here is an example of my categories to help spark some creative thinking...

  • Health & Wellness

  • Love & Relationships

  • Financial Stability & Growth & Flexibility

  • Purpose & Passion

That's it. That is all you have to focus on today. Later in the week we will start actually putting our goals down into the areas of focus you specified and be on our way to starting kicking butt in 2016.

If you have questions, don't hesitate to ask them in the comment section below.

Ready...Set...GOAL

The time has come. Self reflection has occurred and now we need to get to work. This s the hard part because you actually have to put pen to paper and plan.

but how?

I would love to tell you that I did this but THIS IS NOT MINE. I found it online and was like WOAH, holy moly this person is a    talented doodler. 

I would love to tell you that I did this but THIS IS NOT MINE. I found it online and was like WOAH, holy moly this person is a talented doodler. 

I mean we have all these ideas but generally when it is time to put them to paper they just fly right out of our minds. I hate when that happens. Here is what I do. I am a scribbler. I cannot seem to focus on anything unless there is a piece of paper in front of me and I can scribble, doodle or just in general make the ink move across the page. OH YES, I was the girl who wrote down the name of my crush on my notebook a hundred times surrounded  by hearts. I even have old projects from school like a wooden toolbox that is scribbled all over with the names of boys, cool phrases (well I thought they were cool in the 7th grade) and miscellaneous other things I cant even decipher all these years later. The same can be said for my work notes. I never have to wonder about someone stealing my secrets because you would need a decoder ring to get through my notes.

strangely though, this is actually productive for me. It channels my thoughts and somewhere in the mess of undecipherable doodles and hearts galore, a plan takes place. Now I realize that not everyone's brain works the same way mine does BUT I am here telling you what works for me, so it can't hurt to try right?

So get some sort of notebook (hopefully, the same one you have been using for your reflections the last 16 days). Sit in front of the TV or some other form of entertainment that is relaxing yet not too intense. (In other words, watch mindless TV that doesn't require too much attention...no back episodes of Game of Thrones, Lost or House of Cards here, you don't want to get too distracted.) The distraction here is actually your notebook NOT the tv. 

Sadly, not mine either. I was struggling with my computer and images today so had to use some from online...but how cool are they? Love this by    Bea Barros

Sadly, not mine either. I was struggling with my computer and images today so had to use some from online...but how cool are they? Love this by Bea Barros

Every few seconds, write something down. It can be a sentence, a word, a cute little drawing, whatever you want. It should however be related to something you would like to do next year. Maybe it is small like "lost 20 pounds". Maybe it is bigger like "get a raise" or "have a baby". Doesn't matter. No further details are needed today. All you have to do is scribble all the possibilities. We will dig into them later and organize them into something that looks like goals with real tangible action items to them. For now just scribble and jot things down. No pressure. Not coming up with anything, look up at the tv and laugh along with Leonard and Sheldon. Turn on some music, grab a hairbrush and dance around the room a bit...boom idea comes to you, jot it down and keep dancing. 

The only rule...try to fill AT LEAST one who piece of paper with your thoughts. If it takes a couple days, that's ok. Just keep your notebook near by and grab it when an inspiring thought hits you. 

That's it. Wednesday goal setting work complete. We are at the half way point everyone. That means we are about to finish the year ahead of the game because we are going to have a plan for 2016 that takes us all to the next level.

can I get a what what?

My apologies, I got a little excited there. If you did raise the roof and say "what what", my sincerest gratitude. If you didn't, give it time, you might get excited as you start writing things down. For those that did it but don't want to admit it...it's ok, I get it. Maybe next time.

it's never too late to take a step...

It is that time of year when weekends become filled with holiday parties and to do lists. I hope you all had a minute to breathe in all of the hullabaloo. In the course of my buys weekend I may have come down with something. I have the whole swollen and sore gland situation and I am not enjoying it.

For this reason, sadly, today's post will be short and sweet. A few questions to ask yourself as we near the end of the "review" portion of our 31 day goal setting exercise.

What unfinished business did you want to resolve this year and when will you do it? We all say we are going to do things that get put to the side for one reason or another. For many of us there might be a long list of "to do" items that get put to the side. Try and think about what these are for yourself and put some dates to them? Are they things you want to pull into 2016? If, yes, put them aside to include in your goals as we get to that step. If you want to do them sooner than that, you still have 16 days of 2015 to get cracking. Maybe you can't finish but you can at least start and get some headway. What an awesome way to end the year feeling accomplished. 

As you think about these unfinished items, is there a reason you didn't finish them? Were they not important after all? Did you simply procrastinate? Did you have knee surgery and therefore couldn't get to the gym? Did you just forget? Really look at the reasons behind not getting these complete because it will help as we start setting new goals look at the motivation behind what helps you get things done.

I am going to now take some meds and hopefully sleep off this junk. Stay healhty peeps and don't forget to share as always.

 

 

joy comes in the morning

In November we are constantly bombarded with the thought of "gratitude and thanksgiving" but for December I think that word has got to be "joy". Just about every song you can think of that talks about the holiday's mentions the word. (The below one just happens to be one of my favorites.

It is with this in mind that we continue our goal setting process with a focus on joy. It is a simple question really...

what brought you joy this year?

I don't mean, "what made you happy". Anyone can talk about what makes them happy but what actually brought you true JOY in 2015. Joy is a much different focus. Joy comes in small moments and is almost always unexpected.

here is what I think you should consider when trying to decide what truly did bring you joy this year.

  • the people in your life that you spent time with and left feeling good

  • accomplishments you made

  • moments of peace

I don't think it is a secret that for me joy came in the form of my little nephew this year. I also realize that I probably sound like a broken record when I talk about him but  it was truly a big thing. My decision to move home seemed to validated by the birth of Otis because there is not a single person who has me me smile or laugh more in the past 8 months than that little guy. When I was sick, in bed, back and forth to the doctor's and not wanting anyone to see me, this kid would make me smile and laugh out loud. But more than that it was the joy in knowing that he had been brought into the life of my brother and his wife and completed their family. Knowing that they had the missing piece to their puzzle brought a level of joy I didn't expect.

So, as you work on this question today, think about the different kinds of joy around you.