health and wellness

we all fall down sometimes but are you going to do this or what?

Now that I am back in action on this blog thing, I realized that I missed the mid-year check in on my goal setting for the year. YES, even people who blog about setting goals, sometimes lose sight of them. I get busy, some fire alarm needs to be addressed and the goals go to the wayside. Basically, life gets in the way.

While it stings a little to lose sight of your goals and admit failure, it is also the most honest and authentic part of the process. 

we all fall down sometimes

So this picture right here is totally a #waybackwednesday but surprising and thank my lucky stars I actually don't have a ton of pictures of me falling down. What worries me is who else might...yikes. oh and Go SEAHAWKS

So this picture right here is totally a #waybackwednesday but surprising and thank my lucky stars I actually don't have a ton of pictures of me falling down. What worries me is who else might...yikes. oh and Go SEAHAWKS

Coming to terms with that realization is probably the biggest indicator of ultimately meeting your goals in the end. It is an indicator because of the hard conversation you have to have with yourself when you do slack off or fall down. It is in that moment when you  have to make the decision of whether your goal really means something to you or not. It is in this moment when you are faced with a challenge that you get to decide 

am i doing this or not?

Full transparency here? If I hadn't of scrolled through some old blog posts, I may have forgot all about my 2016 goals UNTIL I sat down to write my 2017 goals. I could have skated for the rest of the year but...and here is the rub, I hate losing. I am uber competitive even when I know I have no chance of winning. 

and competing with myself? Oh man, that's when the real competitor comes out. I am my biggest critic. It should be known, however, that I am also my biggest fan. I just expect a lot along the way. I want to be sure that when I am cheering myself on, it is because of something great. 

So, all of that is to say, I didn't do too well in the first half of the year. 

Let's take a look at the scorecard. If you want to hold me accountable check out the original post "Goals Require You Put Some Skin in the Game."

In my defense, I have had some foot issues that have prevented any kind of major exercise. HOWEVER, that does not excuse the extra food I was eating and not burning off. #noexcuses

In my defense, I have had some foot issues that have prevented any kind of major exercise. HOWEVER, that does not excuse the extra food I was eating and not burning off. #noexcuses

Lose 25 Pounds by April 6, 2016

I am giving myself a giant F here. Not only did I not lose any weight, I actually gained some weight since I made the goal. How did this happen? It is simple. I blamed being busy when in reality, I was being lazy and didn't follow any of the guidelines I set in place to hit the goal. I got back on the wagon last week with food and this week with some light exercise so I am going to re-instate this goal. 

One way to get me moving here? I have a bet with a co-worker to lose the weight by our Christmas party, December 4th. There is big money on the line but more important is pride.  Remember when I told you I was competitive? I was not joking. I can not let my co-worker win. He is going DOWN! - goal back in action.

Maybe I was just waiting for this dope address?

Maybe I was just waiting for this dope address?

Buy a house by April 2016

For this I will actually give myself an A-. I did in fact buy a house, it just happened a month late. The whole process took much longer than I had anticipated in this crazy Portland housing market  But I am on board now and know I am going to have to really focus on my financial goals for 2017 to keep the momentum going.

A great session in March with the    "Retail Optical Circle"    brought to you by Vision Ease and Zyloware

A great session in March with the "Retail Optical Circle" brought to you by Vision Ease and Zyloware

Book 5-10 Speaking Gigs by June 2016

I will rate this a solid C. I have booked some gigs, although not quite 10, I did meet the minimum number. The only reason I am not grading higher is because I didn't actually do a lot to get these gigs. I got so wrapped up in the new house and my "day job" that I didn't actually focus on the tasks I had outlined for myself. The jobs I did book were due to word of mouth and recommendations, which by the way is AWESOME. It, however doesn't let me off the hook for doing what I set out to do. That means I am re-instating this goal as well and will finish what I started by the end of November 2016.

Randomly this picture was taken on the day I was supposed to have met all of my goals in April. Oops.

Randomly this picture was taken on the day I was supposed to have met all of my goals in April. Oops.

Monthly connections with friends and family

This is harder to rate. In some ways I have made headway in this and in others I have let the day to day get in the way of what I really wanted to do here. I will also admit that this was the most lackadaisical of the goal I set for myself and didn't have a lot of meat to it, which is probably why it is so hard to rate. I have made a heck of an effort when it comes to my adorable little nephew but probably haven't done the best at keeping in touch with friends, especially the ones who are out of state. I think I need to better understand how I want to execute this one before I re-instate it so that I am setting the right expectation. In the end it is mainly about not becoming a hermit.

How are you progressing towards the goals you set for yourself this year? Have you fallen off? Is it time to re-engage and recalibrate? If so, join me in re-committing yourself to your goals and lets end 2016 better than we started it. 

Thanks go out to    ponder & muse    for the cool graphic

Thanks go out to ponder & muse for the cool graphic

goals require you put some skin in the game

I know I should have shared my goals with you before the 1st of the year and for that I apologize. If I am being honest, I started to a number of times but realized that like me, most of you probably were busy with friends and family and the hullabaloo that comes with the holiday and might not have the time to read blogs. So, I made the choice to wait until things settled a bit. 

This last step in the process is a little intense so I decided to only share with you one goal from each of my areas of focus. This way, you would be able to see the depth of information you should assign to each goal without getting mired in reading a 20 page blog entry.  


Health & Wellness

To Lose 25 Pounds by April 6, 2016

Goal:


Walk 10,000 steps or more each day

Eat 9 fruits or vegetables daily

No Fast Food

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to reduce sickness and allergy outbreaks

to be a better example to parents of why health is key

to boost self estee

Attach a Why:

 

 

Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source:    Redfin

Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source: Redfin


financial stability, growth & flexibility

Buy a house by April 2016

Goal:


Work directly with financial adviser to allocate funds accordingly

limit wasteful spending - less trips to Target (sad but necessary)

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to create a home base (stability)

investment for future

To stop using frivolous spending as a creature comfort

Attach a Why:

Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source:    @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com

Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source: @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com


purpose & passion

To book 5-10 speaking opportunities by June 2016

Goal:


Research local organizations, schools & universities for opportunities

Reach out to contacts with press-kit

build video profile on gigsalad and other speaker & experience forums

start writing

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


Create base audience for expansion

build experience and connections

opportunity to live my dream

this is where the dream starts - it is the conduit for all other changes & opportunities to happen

Attach a Why:


love & relationships

NOTE: This was the most difficult one for me to work on this year and to share in a public forum. Because of this it may seem the least thought out. Please understand that it is very thought out but I am still working on understanding what this means for me. Like most things in life, it is a serious work in progress.

Meaningful conversations and meetings with loved ones monthly

Goal:


Talk to people, don't rely on text

Work to meet new people

Call and meet "just because"

no technology distractions

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


It's no fun being alone and harder to maintain friendships as we age and people get married and have kids

find someone to share experiences, travel etc. with

to open up and trust more - being open to experiences and people

Attach a Why:


There you have it. A goal for each of my areas of focus in 2016. Hopefully this helps you commit your goals to paper and get 2016 off to a great start. Thanks for sticking with the 31 day goal setting challenge and sharing your experiences with me in the comments, emails and in social media. 2015 was a strange and interesting year. There were a lot of changes in my life with health and work and even location but I know like most storms, clear skies are ahead. Thank you for sticking with me and showing interest in what I have to say and helping be a witness to my adventure. Looking forward to great things in 2016.

habits make the man...err...woman

Anytime you make a goal or decide to "fix" something in life it is going to require some changes in your habits.

agggghhhhh

If you have ever walked around a bookstore then I'm sure you have noticed that people talk a lot about "change" and "habits" in self-help books. Apparently, that is because as a culture, we don't tend to enjoy change so much. How else do you explain the popularity of a book called "Who Moved my Cheese"?

habits make the man...err. woman

Let's define habits based on the categories we listed on Monday that might help us meet our more specific goals that we finalize next week. As a reminder, here are the categories, I am focused on.

  • health & wellness

  • love & relationships

  • financial stability, growth & flexibility

  • purpose & passion

Did you define your's yet? NO? Well don't forget to check out Monday's post to catch up with us. "What are you going to pay attention to in 2016?" Once you have your categories of focus, it is time to determine what habits need to be part of our daily life to help us along our journey. Here are some of mine. Remember, try to have no more than 12. When you focus on too much, very little actually happens.

  • wake up with out snoozing

  • take vitamins daily

  • walk/work out daily

  • stop the glorification of busy

  • no fast food - cook more - more veggies

  • stretch daily

  • stop over-exaggerating and being overly dramatic - be okay with reality

  • love & relationships

  • initiate communication with friends & family better

  • remember special days and do things just because

  • gratitude journal and meditation daily

  • news/blogs - focused on my purpose

  • It's on the DVR, you can watch it later

I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

There you go, my...now it is your turn. It's the last step until we put pen to paper with a goal for each area of focus.

Can't wait to close out the challenge with all of you.