kevin carroll

be creative this morning and take action

Bonus Day!

Short and sweet too. Recently I shared my experience at a Creative Mornings Event with Kevin Carroll as the key note speaker. Many of you reached out asking where you could find a video of the session. Look no further. The video is now up and available. Check it out and be inspired.

Happy Tuesday.

The importance of turning ideas into action Kevin Carroll at CreativeMornings Portland, August 2015. Free events like this one are hosted every month in dozens of cities. Discover hundreds of talks from the world's creative community at http://creativemornings.com/talks Don't miss a video. Subscribe! http://bit.ly/1jeJwut Follow CreativeMornings: http://twitter.com/creativemorning http://facebook.com/creativemornings

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creative actions towards purpose and your red rubber ball

Last Friday I had the opportunity to attend an event put on by a group called Creative Mornings PDX. According to their website, "Creative Mornings is a breakfast lecture series for the creative community." They supply breakfast, coffee and an inspiring speaker. Each month they choose a theme and chapters all over the globe. SCORE!

How have I never heard of this before? Especially since upon further examination I saw that Brad Montague (of Kid President fame) has done one of the breakfast lectures. Let's just say I knew exactly what my weekend was going to be spent doing. (I mean, I of course have other scintillating plans as well so this will just be an addition to the already wild and crazy weekend I had planned.)

anyway...

I was doubly excited because the person speaking this month was none other than Kevin Carroll. You may recall me mentioning Kevin in a few past posts. 

Yeah, if it isn't obvious, this guy is inspiring. For this session he was speaking on the theme "ACTION". As a person who calls herself the "Chief Ideation Officer" of her own endeavors, the idea of action is a must have. As creatives, we tend to be people full of idea and inspired by the things around us, which is amazing. The struggle, sometimes is putting those ideas and inspirations into action. Dreamers can daydream non-stop. Often times we need to be prodded to keep moving forward on one project instead of jumping around to the next. 

I often speak to this idea of putting action towards your purpose and the question that always comes up is "HOW".  It isn't always easy. If you search hard enough you can find lots of obstacles to block your path. Nobody is going to stand and hold your hand. The truth is that you have to have "a thrust of spirit to do this, you have to want it" according to Kevin. Think about that for a minute... a "thrust of spirit". If you really want something you should be feeling some kind of emotional, physical and/or visceral thrust towards it. You have to feel deep in your spirit. That is what passion is all about. 

Passion isn't about liking something a little more than something else. It isn't about something being cool or popular. Passion is something that cannot be ignored. Surprisingly, passion isn't always sexy. It is a bully in a way. It gnaws at you if you ignore it, sending things in your life time and time again to smack you over the head until you notice it. Most people seek out their passion for a long time but ignore it when it comes to their door. You see, here is the thing, passion isn't just the love or the spirit of something, it has to include the thrust or the chase. Without an action, passion is becomes something different. It's spark starts to dull and it becomes something you yearn for from a far which causes pain. 

Your passion should never be the cause of your pain. Sweat, blood, tears and exhaustion, YES, but pain?Kevin's grandfather often spoke of this idea that "you can't do anything with a broke want." I have heard him say this a number of times and I like the idea more each time. We live in this weird time where "wanting" has become more important than "doing". It's as if we don't realize that if you want something YOU have to go get it. We actually expect other people to satisfy all of our wants and needs and when they deliver we become unsatisfied and can't figure out why.

I'm going to tell you why. We are unsatisfied because if something is truly OUR passion, we don't want someone else to wrap it up in a pretty bow and give it to us. Having a passion is about way more than wanting, it is about the journey. So cliche right? Maybe. Who cares, I happen to believe in the truth of it. You will never truly embrace your passion if you didn't do anything to bring it to life. 


There are a lot of talkers in the world (I should know I am totally a talker), but we need more doers (which I just realized is the tagline of a Home Depot commercial). If you are a talker then use your voice for something, talk about SOMETHING REAL. That is the way to be a doer. If you are a doer, make sure people see it, it will catch on. If you are both, then share what you have learned and how you have found your way.

There's a quote you have probably heard a hundred times; 

The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.
— Mark Twain

This implies that everyone is born with a purpose. Regardless of what you believe. I believe it is our duty to find that purpose and use it to make the world a better place. It is time that we stop being complacent with our purpose, it is time we put it into ACTION. Don't know what your purpose is yet? Time to get moving and find out.

I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.
— Albert Einstein

I can't thank Creative Mornings PDX and Kevin Carroll enough for an inspiring morning and for reminding me to act towards my purpose. 

P.S. After finding out Brad/Kid President did one of these as well, I immediately ran home and watched his. Since the one I went to is not yet up online, I thought I would share Brad's. It is truly inspiring and actually kind of follows the theme of "action" so it is a good addition to this post. 

champions, advocates and hype-men (women)

One of my first concerts in life was a 90's dream. It was a mix of hip-hop and r&b that featured then rising stars like The Luniz, Mary J. Blige, Jodeci and Notorious BIG, if I remember correctly. Hip Hop wasn't new on the scene but it still had not reached the mainstream of pop culture the way it is today. While I listened regularly from its inception, having a visual representation to go with it besides MTV Raps and BET was new to me.

I remember when the Luniz came on the stage there was so many people with them. A few jumped off the stage and into the audience They had microphones but they were not any of the rappers from the Luniz. They weren't rapping either. It seemed like they were just yelling out random words and flinging their shirts in the air. I was so confused. Who were these extra guys? It was in that single moment I learned what the Hype Man was. 

So why am I telling you about the concerts of my youth? Because I believe we should all have our very own "hype man (woman)". Someone that lifts us up, gets us excited to "be on" and someone who keeps our momentum and energy up when it might otherwise slide. 

I am so lucky, I have a lot of good people in my corner but since it is "Woman Crush Wednesday" I thought I would tell you about one of my biggest "hype ladies". The one who keeps the music going for me. By no means is she the ONLY "hype lady I got, but I know you have other things to do besides learning all about my fabulous peeps. 

When you have more than one friend, most of the time you each play a role in each other's lives. Maybe one of you is the comedienne, one is the voice of reason, one forces you to step outside of your box and get a little crazy. This is kind of the process that adult friendships take. So, while all of my friends are awesome, my girl Krystle is most certainly my "hype woman". 

From the first time I was able to get her to "call in sick to work" (shh, don't tell anyone), I knew we were meant to be. For most of our friendship we have lived in different states but it never got in the way of our bond. She has seen me through bouts of unemployment, depression, boys and other life changing events. I have never had to worry about what I say or what I do with Krystle.

No matter what I do, she sends me emoji filled text messages telling me how amazing I am. She sends me personalized gifts to lift me up and keep me going. 

Aside from my sister's she is the only person who is down for anything and when I say anything, I mean it. Anyone who knows me or follows me on social media will know that I am all about trying new things, acting silly, costumes, wigs and photo shoots, just to name a  few of the shenanigans I have pulled her into. 

Not only does she float along with my whims but she uses those whims to lift me up. I don't know how she does it really, but she has actually made me realize that corn dogs are a part of my shtick in the world and others jumped on board. This girl is really good.

I have no idea what I have ever done to deserve this "hype lady" but in my time of transition I am so glad to have her. 

Do you have someone who you can rely on to "bless your quest", who are encourages your dream, cheers on your purpose and who champions your quest to find that primal source of joy that we all deserve.

 

P.S. I want to clarify that I am NOT endorsing this Where Dreams Meet Reality group that sponsored these videos. I am not familiar with them in anyway and tried to research them but found no site available. So ignore the parts that speak to that and really listen to the message Kevin is providing. That is what I am speaking to.

naysayers, killjoy's and confused admirer's

Happy Monday. Today I want to continue our conversation from last week in the post from Friday, "red rubber balls, coffee breaks and other musings". Today we talk about what happens when you go after your purpose. I want to talk about the part the everyone avoids, 

the haters. 

At some point in every journey you come across people who don't quite see your dream as clear as you do. Here's the thing. It's ok.

it's not their dream to understand.

WOAH! right? We spend so much of our lives worried about what everyone else will think, how they will perceive what we are doing, whether or not they will like what we do and who we are. 

who cares?

I mean it, who cares? In a perfect world, everyone would love everyone and everything they do. This isn't a perfect world and that alone makes it perfect. confusing? yes, but having naysayers more than likely means you are headed in the right direction. I am not sure why it happens but for some reason it scares people to see other people doing better than them. These people are not mean by nature and deep down they probably do want what is best for you but there is something in our chemistry (especially women) that makes us think it's either them or us. Like there is limited pool of happiness in the world and you either get a big gulp of it or nothing at all. We see other people doing well and we long to have the same success for ourselves. We start playing the good old comparison game which nobody ever wins. 

The moment of discovery can find you at any stage of life.
— Kevin Carroll

Got a little depressing there for a minute, didn't I? My bad, but I wanted to make sure you really get what I'm talking about. There is some good news though.

Are you ready for it?


The good news is that when you follow your purpose or passion, you become a megaphone to others. Living your purpose gets so loud, others can't help but hear and want to get loud themselves. I am about to rock your world but did you know that it is never to late to be happy?

there is not limit to happiness on this earth

There just isn't. Go ahead, research it. We do not have a "don't fill past this line" in us with regards to happiness. Quite frankly the only thing preventing us from being happiness is ourselves. We are scared, lazy and doubtful and so we are prime targets for the naysayers who would come and knock us down. 

But I have a secret tip for you on how to ignore the haters in your world. If you remember this one simple phrase...

Rocked your world again, didn't I? Well, I can't claim ownership of the phrase, it is actually from the video you will see below. It's perfect though. Think about it. If you realize that everyone is an admirer of what you are doing, things get really easy. Some are confused, and that is fine especially when you consider the following:

not everyone understands genius at work

normally people's negativity has nothing to do with you

not everyone is going to like you

sometimes people admire you from afar

it's your purpose not theirs

It's not always easy to ignore the haters, I get that. There is more than one time where I was crushed by someones opinion of my journey. I would get knocked around a bit but eventually I would get up. Then I started thinking about that saying... "haters are just confused admirer's". I am not saying that a little phrase will solve all of your problems but it does help to put things in perspective and sometimes a little perspective goes a long way.

Check out the second video of the series, with Kevin Carroll speaking on haters. 

Now that you know how many admirer's we have, what are you going to do about it? How are you going to plow through the confusion and going after your purpose? Tell me below in the comments. See you Wednesday when we talk about the next step, the people who lift you up on your journey. 

P.S. I want to clarify that I am NOT endorsing this Where Dreams Meet Reality group that sponsored these videos. I am not familiar with them in anyway and tried to research them but found no site available. So ignore the parts that speak to that and really listen to the message Kevin is providing. That is what I am speaking to.

a red rubber ball, coffee breaks and other musings

I thought I would end this week talking about advice. Advice can be tricky. Everyone has an opinion but what really makes you listen to one person more than another?

I am not sure I have a "real psychologically proven" answer for you on that. I can only speak from my experience. I think that the advice we take is the kind that speaks to us because our inner voice was already headed in that direction to begin with. You have probably felt it before. It is that gut feeling you get that something is just right. You have those ah-ha moments that Oprah always talks about. 

man i love those moments

I had one of them years ago that feels relevant to what so many of the people who email into me are going through right now. Let me set the stage for you.

It was the late 90's, early 00's. I worked at Nike. Sounds like the dream, right? Yes and no. At this point I was working in customer service. If any of you have worked in customer service then you know how taxing that type of work is. You answer hundreds of calls a day and a large majority of those people are mad at you. I mean technically it isn't you that they're mad at but they are focusing all of that anger at you. The only way to explain it is to just say it.

it sucks

On a random Friday while I was on the job, our team was called in to a meeting in the Steve Prefontaine building. Most of us entering the room had a bad attitude. It wasn't that we wanted to feel that way, but the job had gotten to us. They brought in a man by the name of Kevin Carroll. If you have never heard of him before, don't fear. I will share one of his videos after this post. Kevin Carroll is an amazing person who's job title is simply "katalyst".

catalyst - noun
a person or thing that precipitates an event or change:

a person whose talk, enthusiasm, or energy causes others to be more friendly, enthusiastic, or energetic.
— dictionary.com

Ok, first of all can we just talk about what an awesome word that is? My goal is to one day be a catalyst for change in this world. I want to make the world a better place. So does Kevin. 

Back to the story...

On this particular day, our managers had brought Kevin in to motivate us. He did that. He did it in a way that in it's entirety would not translate for anyone who wasn't there. But there was this one part...

I am paraphrasing but, he said some version of the following: "If you are unhappy with what is going on then you need to take a look at your situation and make a decision. Look at what you are doing and ask yourself,

"is this my life?"

"is this what I want to do?"

"is my job the whole of who I am or one part?"

or

"is this a coffee break on the way to what I want to do?"

It was that simple. Instantly my eyes flooded with tears. While I do enjoy a good cry, these tears surprised me. I was in the first row so of course Kevin saw my tears, which was quite frankly mortifying. In that moment though I felt connected to him and what he was saying. It wasn't even the meat of what he was talking about. It was this small side note that just resonated with me so strongly. The meeting ended and I am sure I eagerly approached him afterwards and blubbered something incoherent. Afterwards, I went home and I started to image...what if? 

Those words he spoke started me on a completely different path. Look, change didn't happen over night. Trust me, I still had a lot of battle scars to endure but this was the "CATALYST" for the journey. I am still on that journey but I have figured out what I want to do. I stopped taking so many coffee breaks and I am working towards my purpose.

So in an effort to be some small form of a catalyst for others, I ask you this?

is this your life?

is this what you want to do?

OR

is this a coffee break on the way?

what is your red rubber ball?

Put the coffee down, leave the coffee shop. It's time to get to work. It is time to do what you are are meant to do. Stay tuned because Monday we talk about the "naysayers, haters and confused admirer's" and learn how to fight them off as we chase our own "red rubber ball". Till Then, have a safe Fourth of July weekend.

 

P.S. Kevin Carroll speaks all around the world. His focus is on the idea of PLAY and how play can change the world. His mission surrounds a story of a red rubber ball and a never say never disposition. To learn more, check out Kevin's website

http://www.kevincarrollkatalyst.com/ 

P.PS. I want to clarify that I am NOT endorsing this Where Dreams Meet Reality group that sponsored these videos. I am not familiar with them in anyway and tried to research them but found no site available. So ignore the parts that speak to that and really listen to the message Kevin is providing. That is what I am speaking to.

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