words, words, all kinds of words... i put my thing down, flip it & reverse it

Ok, so I realize that those are the lyrics from 2 different Missy Elliott songs, but whatever, it got your attention, didn't it?

I love words. It seems weird to me that we don't pay more attention to words in our every day lives. Words change, explain,  comfort and at times even confuse but at the end of the day our lives are surrounding by words. Many use words to tear down and destroy people, places and things, which is very unfortunate. On the other hand, some people use words to lift up other people and bring positivity where there otherwise may not have been any.

It is because of this that I believe in borrowing a few words for yourself that you can lean on, words that can inspire you...

words you can live by.

It is because of this that years ago I decided to choose a few words that best represented me as a person. I called the exercise "5 words". The words change from time to time as I change, which is what should happen. So here they are as of today...

my 5 words...

Art work provided by:    Ponder and Muse (Kristin Crocker)

Art work provided by: Ponder and Muse (Kristin Crocker)

Here's the thing, it isn't always easy to "live life in an exclamation point". You need help. Having words that remind me of who I am and what I want out of life, keeps me in the exclamation point.

Check out below to hear more about the concept of 5 words and then tell me...

what are your 5 words?

tell me in the comments below...

sometimes facebook just knows that if you had a cat you'd name him maurice

I can't have cats. They make me sneeze. But I would like to think that if I DID in fact have a cat, I would be cool enough to name it "Maurice" I mean let's be honest, that is the coolest cat name ever.

I can't have cats. They make me sneeze. But I would like to think that if I DID in fact have a cat, I would be cool enough to name it "Maurice" I mean let's be honest, that is the coolest cat name ever.

I saw this video online yesterday in between videos of babies laughing and cats doing weird cat things. Yes, suddenly I am a cat video watcher and yes, I'm not really sure how I feel about it.


This video showed up in the "you might also like" section and so I though, hmm maybe Facebook DOES really know me and clicked on the play button.

This video asks the question "what would you tell your younger self?" But that question is asked all the time, so what makes this video any better?

You'll see...

Amazing, right?

this is basically advice you should take at all times, if you ask me....this 8 year old already has life figured out with just those two words..

this is basically advice you should take at all times, if you ask me....this 8 year old already has life figured out with just those two words..

After watching I couldn't help but think, "Why do we wait so long to speak the lesson out loud?" Do you think any of these people had thought about giving their selves permission to follow this sage advice before they were asked to be part of this video? I'm guessing not. Mainly because when I tried to think about what advice I would give to "last year's me", it too me a minute. But again, WHY?

How many of us need to hear this time and time again?

How many of us need to hear this time and time again?

We are learning all of the time but we go so fast, it takes us WAY to long to get what we were supposed to get out of things. We are all guilty of concentrating too hard on giving everyone ELSE advice and not working out the advice we should give to ourselves. I can wholeheartedly cop up to that. I'm not proud of it but I do know I am not alone.

So I wanted to make some sort of commitment to myself that would allow me to start talking to myself, forgiving myself and reminding myself of what I can let go of and what I should hold on tighter to. To myself and to you I say, let's slow down and take a minute, just one little tiny minute to think about what our life taught us in the last year (shoot, last week or even yesterday) and figure out how we can use it moving forward. Here is my first attempt...

to my 38 year old self I say this:

screw the people who tear you down and underestimate you. It can only mean one thing...

they clearly don’t know you very well!
— Signed a 39 Year Old

I wonder if the makers of this video realized that by doing this I have now displayed my age for all the world to see. Great, guess I'm gonna have to pull out my Aliyah CD's next year and tell my 39 year old self that "Age Ain't Nothing But a Number"

so thank you Facebook, for telling me what you think I would like today. Not only did I like this video but it was the perfect video at the perfect time. I love when that happens.

It's KISMET. oh and since you are so cool and read this I'll give you a tip...Come back Wednesday to hear a little more about Kismet. I think you'll like it and don't be selfish, share the wealth and tell your friends. We are trying to start a movement here. Sharing positive content and building people up. Now, that is something to get behind.

OH and don't forget to play along...tell me in the comments what you would tell your "last year's self"

Friday's Three Things - Speaking Part 3

The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.
— Mark Twain

How quickly 3 weeks go by. Today we finish the 3 part series on how I found my passion to speak. 

Speaking was part of the job but it quickly morphed into something much more. I actually sought out opportunities to speak. I got excited just thinking about a speech the night before. I prayed that someone would call me and ask me to speak. While this excitement was brewing, something else came to light. I knew the struggle to find your purpose. I also knew that girls and women faced more than their fare share of hurdles to that discovery. (Boys do too but the reality is we fight different battles and many girls are afraid to take what is theirs and go for it.

This is how I made my way to speaking on Purpose, Passion & Drive and how we find them. This happened easier than one might have expected. I reached out to some people I knew and they had opportunities for me. I was able to speak in schools and clubs, small non profit groups etc. all about passion, purpose and how you really find yourself through the journey. I was speaking to kids who were so excited about the future. It almost made me wish I was 16 again

i said almost!

Let me just tell you, KISMET is a beautiful word.

Art work by Ponder & Muse. Click on imageabove to go to store.

: a power that is believed to control what happens in the future
fate; destiny.

Kismet is truly what was happening. Everything was falling into place just the way it was supposed to .Purpose and Passion might be my favorite topic to speak on, mainly because most of the time, I have spoke on this in front of audience that were mostly kids/teens. It is the toughest audience, you could ever imagine, but it is also the most eager audience. Their minds are so open to possibilities and as long as you speak on their level, they stay engaged, they ask questions and they challenge everything you ever thought you knew. When this happens, you learn so much about yourself and about possibilities.

So...why do I tell you all of this? I tell you this because...

this is my passion, this is my purpose

When you finally find your purpose, it really is your responsibility to share with with the world and use it.
— Dawne Hanks

and it is important that I show people what I do. Not just so you might think about me when looking for a speaker / storyteller but so that I get the opportunity to share my passion with others. With that in mind I share a Friday's 3 Things as quotes to close out the week and get you inspired, so take a look below and spend this weekend thinking about your own purpose, or check out the rest of my website and hire me to speak. I am ready to share and spread positivity one opportunity at a tim!

The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.
— Neil Gaiman

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.
— Howard Thurman

till monday...