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waiting is for chumps & i don't know about you, but i ain't no chump

The bad news: there is no key to the universe. The good news: it was never locked...
— Author Unknown
my quest for experiences often means doing things that terrify me beyond any explanation. Proof of that is this Indoor Skydiving adventure with    I  Fly Seattle.

my quest for experiences often means doing things that terrify me beyond any explanation. Proof of that is this Indoor Skydiving adventure with I Fly Seattle.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I want to have a life of experiences.  I'm talking about big, scare the crap out of you, never regret missing out experiences. I do my best to do the things I have always wished I could do. Here’s the thing though, I let life get in the way sometimes.  I don’t know why, but I guess I just let fear and anxiety get in my way.  I suppose I’m not alone in this.  There’s a multi-million dollar book industry out there called “self help” to prove that I’m not alone.  We really are our worst enemy sometimes, or at the very least our biggest obstacle.

But why?

Why do we block our blessings when they are so obviously heading straight for us like a freight train? What are we so afraid of?  Better yet, how do we move past this type of thinking?  How do we move from fantasizing about the life we want and start living the life we want?

Yes, I do realize that the    Denver Airport    was not in fact trying to inspire me to take action with this sign. They really just wanted me to drive in circles until my person had arrived but inspiration comes in places you would least expect

Yes, I do realize that the Denver Airport was not in fact trying to inspire me to take action with this sign. They really just wanted me to drive in circles until my person had arrived but inspiration comes in places you would least expect

I saw this sign at the Denver airport that said “no waiting” and it suddenly clicked.  I now knew the answer to everything.  I took my picture which you can see below and went on my way.  For weeks afterward I sat myself down to reflect on what appeared so simple at the airport.  Only it didn’t seem so simple anymore.  “No Waiting”.  The phrase and the picture (a photographic gem if I do say so myself.  Thanks Hipstamatic) speak to me.  I just can’t seem to fully hear what the words are really saying.  It’s almost as if it is a whisper or worse, a riddle that I have to figure out.  It can’t really be that easy, can it?  Stop waiting? 

Or can it?

You can't just decide to STOP WAITING. You have to put some action into it. Here is part of my action...goal setting each year with intention. This is no joke, it's a long process and not done alone, you need accountbility when you stop waiting and we are not the best at doing that for ourselves.

You can't just decide to STOP WAITING. You have to put some action into it. Here is part of my action...goal setting each year with intention. This is no joke, it's a long process and not done alone, you need accountbility when you stop waiting and we are not the best at doing that for ourselves.

What happens if we stop waiting?  Well…I suppose we stop waiting!  But what are we waiting for anyways?  Someone to tell us it’s okay to be happy, successful, content, delighted, loved?  Come on, we are grown ass men & women here (excuse my language).  We know our worth, right?  We know that we deserve all of those things I listed and much more, right? We tell our friends and loved ones all the time, that they deserve better than what they are accepting, don’t we believe the same for ourselves?


I think we do.  I KNOW I do.

The day I decided to stop waiting on top of a hike in New Mexico at    Ojo Caliente    New Years 2013

The day I decided to stop waiting on top of a hike in New Mexico at Ojo Caliente New Years 2013

So, after a lot of time trying to complicate the matter I have decided to follow the direction of the sign, as I am convinced that it was just that, a sign.  I am not going to wait.  I’m gonna stop waiting for life to happen. I’m gonna stop waiting for someone to tell me what I think I want to hear.  I’m gonna stop waiting for something easy to come along.

Here is where I buried all my excuses. In the middle of the hike I found a spot. Took out a piece of paper and wrote all of the negative thoughts and things that were making me wait to live. I buried them in the sand, said a little prayer and left them there in the middle of that cold New Mexican Desert. And guess what?  Things started happening...

Here is where I buried all my excuses. In the middle of the hike I found a spot. Took out a piece of paper and wrote all of the negative thoughts and things that were making me wait to live. I buried them in the sand, said a little prayer and left them there in the middle of that cold New Mexican Desert. And guess what?  Things started happening...

Now I’ve heard it all before, “you have to be patient” but I believe that there is a difference between patience and ambivalence.  I think people live lives of ambivalence a lot of the time, waiting for someone, anyone to tell them it’s okay to LIVE and enjoy life, to experience it in all of its glory. So I will exercise patience when it is needed, but I will no longer wait for the sake of waiting.

I’m going after the life I want.  I’m taking every opportunity to grab every piece of happiness, love, pure unadulterated joy, success and delight that I can and I’m bringing you with me, because…well why not?


Before I leave, I thought I would share a few quotes about waiting from some people who know/knew what they were talking about.

So, my question for all of today is...

what are WE waiting for?

be creative this morning and take action

Bonus Day!

Short and sweet too. Recently I shared my experience at a Creative Mornings Event with Kevin Carroll as the key note speaker. Many of you reached out asking where you could find a video of the session. Look no further. The video is now up and available. Check it out and be inspired.

Happy Tuesday.

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a red rubber ball, coffee breaks and other musings

I thought I would end this week talking about advice. Advice can be tricky. Everyone has an opinion but what really makes you listen to one person more than another?

I am not sure I have a "real psychologically proven" answer for you on that. I can only speak from my experience. I think that the advice we take is the kind that speaks to us because our inner voice was already headed in that direction to begin with. You have probably felt it before. It is that gut feeling you get that something is just right. You have those ah-ha moments that Oprah always talks about. 

man i love those moments

I had one of them years ago that feels relevant to what so many of the people who email into me are going through right now. Let me set the stage for you.

It was the late 90's, early 00's. I worked at Nike. Sounds like the dream, right? Yes and no. At this point I was working in customer service. If any of you have worked in customer service then you know how taxing that type of work is. You answer hundreds of calls a day and a large majority of those people are mad at you. I mean technically it isn't you that they're mad at but they are focusing all of that anger at you. The only way to explain it is to just say it.

it sucks

On a random Friday while I was on the job, our team was called in to a meeting in the Steve Prefontaine building. Most of us entering the room had a bad attitude. It wasn't that we wanted to feel that way, but the job had gotten to us. They brought in a man by the name of Kevin Carroll. If you have never heard of him before, don't fear. I will share one of his videos after this post. Kevin Carroll is an amazing person who's job title is simply "katalyst".

catalyst - noun
a person or thing that precipitates an event or change:

a person whose talk, enthusiasm, or energy causes others to be more friendly, enthusiastic, or energetic.
— dictionary.com

Ok, first of all can we just talk about what an awesome word that is? My goal is to one day be a catalyst for change in this world. I want to make the world a better place. So does Kevin. 

Back to the story...

On this particular day, our managers had brought Kevin in to motivate us. He did that. He did it in a way that in it's entirety would not translate for anyone who wasn't there. But there was this one part...

I am paraphrasing but, he said some version of the following: "If you are unhappy with what is going on then you need to take a look at your situation and make a decision. Look at what you are doing and ask yourself,

"is this my life?"

"is this what I want to do?"

"is my job the whole of who I am or one part?"

or

"is this a coffee break on the way to what I want to do?"

It was that simple. Instantly my eyes flooded with tears. While I do enjoy a good cry, these tears surprised me. I was in the first row so of course Kevin saw my tears, which was quite frankly mortifying. In that moment though I felt connected to him and what he was saying. It wasn't even the meat of what he was talking about. It was this small side note that just resonated with me so strongly. The meeting ended and I am sure I eagerly approached him afterwards and blubbered something incoherent. Afterwards, I went home and I started to image...what if? 

Those words he spoke started me on a completely different path. Look, change didn't happen over night. Trust me, I still had a lot of battle scars to endure but this was the "CATALYST" for the journey. I am still on that journey but I have figured out what I want to do. I stopped taking so many coffee breaks and I am working towards my purpose.

So in an effort to be some small form of a catalyst for others, I ask you this?

is this your life?

is this what you want to do?

OR

is this a coffee break on the way?

what is your red rubber ball?

Put the coffee down, leave the coffee shop. It's time to get to work. It is time to do what you are are meant to do. Stay tuned because Monday we talk about the "naysayers, haters and confused admirer's" and learn how to fight them off as we chase our own "red rubber ball". Till Then, have a safe Fourth of July weekend.

 

P.S. Kevin Carroll speaks all around the world. His focus is on the idea of PLAY and how play can change the world. His mission surrounds a story of a red rubber ball and a never say never disposition. To learn more, check out Kevin's website

http://www.kevincarrollkatalyst.com/ 

P.PS. I want to clarify that I am NOT endorsing this Where Dreams Meet Reality group that sponsored these videos. I am not familiar with them in anyway and tried to research them but found no site available. So ignore the parts that speak to that and really listen to the message Kevin is providing. That is what I am speaking to.

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Image source: http://stephanieoduenyi.blogspot.com/2012/08/another-plus-for-oprah-as-her-favorite.html