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karaoke when you get the chance but do us all a favor and don't sing

The week has come to an end and with it, the last you will have to hear of my advice. Hopefully one or more of these tips will help you or someone you love. If you missed the first two posts, check them out.

sisterly advice part 1

sisterly advice part 2

and now onto part 3 and the final installment of sisterly advice.

always sit at the bar

If you are dining with 2 people or less you should always follow this rule. You would also have to make sure to put your phone away. You will meet the most amazing people and probably even have one of the best nights of your life.

when in doubt, dance it out

yes, that is me in the horse head...sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do, which leads right into the next piece of advice...

yes, that is me in the horse head...sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do, which leads right into the next piece of advice...

That’s what Christina Yang would do and Shondra Rhymes is a genius so I'm rolling with it.

enjoy this time because it is fleeting

I hated getting this advice too but boy is it ever true.  The best times of your life go way to fast so every now and then take a deep breath to make sure you are in the moment and enjoying every single second.  One day you will look back on this time and tell the stories to your kids on repeat not remembering that you have already told them a million times.  This will annoy your children to no end and remind you of when your parents did it to you.  When this happens you will smile and maybe chuckle a bit.

never accept a drink from a stranger

Joe is no stranger but he still let's me take matters into my own hands every once in awhile

Joe is no stranger but he still let's me take matters into my own hands every once in awhile

Unless the following criteria is met:

  • He is Hot

  • He is Wealthy – we’re talking private jet wealthy not fancy dinner wealthy

  • He’s Ryan Gosling – When in doubt accept anything Ryan Gosling offers you

  • You’re broke and can’t afford a drink on your own

  • You are really really thirsty

In the case of any of the above go ahead, accept the drink just make sure to ALWAYS watch it being made by the bartender

**SIDENOTE:  If it is Ryan Gosling buying you the drink, I bet you will be happy you followed my underpants advice. I'm just saying.

if you have to karaoke, DO IT, but never sing

Look, unless you are like legit and people other than your relatives and friends have told you that, singing is a bad idea. Nobody really listens anyway. AND, when people are nervous at karaoke they always sing slow depressing songs. WTH? you are supposed to be out having fun, getting the crowd involved, showing them what you got. SO...I advice rapping. Choose a song completely opposite of who you are and let it rip. People will dance, they will cheer you on and it won't matter what you sound like.

So there you have it 15, pieces of advice that I have tried to instill in my younger siblings and now to you.Since you stayed till the end I decided to give you a little bonus piece of advice.

be nice to your big sister. 

She is the best friend you will ever have and would lay down her life for you. She watched even when you got the mexican pizza and she didn't and yet she still helped you put the hot sauce on it. She throws you slumber parties when you are a pre-teen and takes you out for a drink on your 21st. She will give you the best gifts, make you laugh by doing ridiculous things and she will do whatever you need, whenever you need it. YES, she is probably a little bossy, and sometimes too over-protective but it is all out of her love for you. So give her a break and maybe a hug every once in awhile.

women in sports and events

Networking is so important. In a previous post called "Networking isn't for Dummies",  I spoke about this importance but stressed that networking isn't about using people to get what you want. True networking is a give and take relationship that benefits and supports each person. I am blessed with a pretty great network around me and part of the network is a group of like-minded women who work in the sports and entertainment industries.

Women in Sports and Events (WISE) is a networking group that works to "create and support programs that enhance success and growth of women in the business of sports." The brain child of Sue Rodin (Stars & Strategies), WISE was created because Sue faced a situation at work in which she learned the inequality of roles and salary between her and a male colleague. At the time she was looking for someone she could commiserate with about this troubling situation. When she looked around, she realized that there weren't any programs around to give her that opportunity. A while later, she was at an event and basically went to every single table with a woman at it and said, "hey do you want to join a group of industry women chatting about all things business?" It was a no brainer, and the ladies joined Sue. The first meeting ended up being at a local restaurant. There was no real plan, just a need they saw. From there WISE was born.

Some years later they now offer tons of opportunities for women to meet, network and learn. One of these opportunities is the WISE/R Symposium. Last Wednesday I was able to attend the symposium for the 2nd time. It is a great event that has key note speakers, panel discussions, workshops and peer networking circles with women from all areas of the industry. The focus is on the issues we as women face in the wold of sports and business. 

This year the focus seemed to be all about building a personal brand.  They offered a number of different workshops to choose from. I chose to attend 2 of the them.

The first was a workshop on Personal Brand Strategy. Led by two women from The Wasserman Group; Jennifer Van Dijk and Lisa Bregman, they spoke on how to use social media to build your personal brand. With great tips on LinkedIn and Twitter. I consider myself pretty well versed on these platforms and still learned quite a bit from these women. I'll make sure and pay it forward by sharing some of the lessons I learned in an upcoming post and answer any questions you have on the platforms.

The second workshop I attended was on "Presentation as Performance" led by Michael Chad Hoeppner of GK Training and Communications. As a speaker, this was a very interesting workshop to attend. It was full of tips on dynamics, body language, ticks etc. It's all about using more of ourselves and practicing the 4 P's. Pace, Pause, Pitch and Power. But don't listen to me, they provide great exercises to try on your own through their website.

The big draw for me however was the key note speaker. Joyce Roche, author and retired President and CEO of Girls Inc. Joyce spoke all about the "impostor syndrome". Ever heard of it? If you haven't, you still probably know what it is. It is that feeling that no matter how well you are doing at something, that maybe you aren't the most qualified or maybe you don't deserve it. It is based on the self doubt that intrudes our minds in the most inopportune moments. She even writes about it in her 2013 book, The Empress Has No Clothes: Conquering Self-Doubt to Embrace Success.  

So, why am I telling you all about WISE? I am telling you because it is so important that we find places to network and learn from. Maybe you work in the world of sports and events and this is a group you might want to become a part of. If so, check out the WISE website. If you are not in that industry, there are still tons of groups that you can become a part of. Just google "local networking groups", (click here for a great article on the Top 10 Business Networking Groups.) You can also check out LinkedIn, or check out sites like MeetUp. You can even look for groups within your industry. Don't put it off as another to do that gets pushed to the wayside, put aside some time this week to find your own network.

What type of networking groups do you belong to? Share your favorites with the rest of us in the comments below.