- "Sorry, can I ask a stupid question?"
- "Sorry, do you have a minute"
- "Sorry" when someone else bumps into you
- "Sorry" as you hand your child to their father
- "Sorry" when someone sits too close to you
- "Sorry" when someone else was the wrongdoer
What's the big deal? I mean I know I probably did one of these this week alone. We are just being polite, right? But are we doing that or is it something else?
Saying I'm sorry is one of those annoying quirks and peccadilloes that seem to come in like an alien and body snatch every bit of what makes us us and for some reason we let it. Probably because we were taught to have manners and be the "bigger" (better) person. So we say sorry again and again. It is almost like when you great someone with "hi, how are you?" The whole concept is there as a rhetorical question because if anybody actually stopped and told you ow they were feeling, you would be running for cover because let's face, for most people that we present that question to, we don't really care.
I know, sometimes I'm a bit of a jerk. but I'm a truthful jerk and I am only saying what most of us are thinking. We say "sorry" as a formality. We don't really mean it and if you asked us "why" we apologized, we probably wouldn't know what to say. In the small cases we would be able to give you a reason, it will sound just as ridiculous in our head as it did when you heard it out loud. Then we go home and curse ourselves for doing something so "stupid" and never once giving ourselves the luxury of an apology.