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it's never too late to take a step...

It is that time of year when weekends become filled with holiday parties and to do lists. I hope you all had a minute to breathe in all of the hullabaloo. In the course of my buys weekend I may have come down with something. I have the whole swollen and sore gland situation and I am not enjoying it.

For this reason, sadly, today's post will be short and sweet. A few questions to ask yourself as we near the end of the "review" portion of our 31 day goal setting exercise.

What unfinished business did you want to resolve this year and when will you do it? We all say we are going to do things that get put to the side for one reason or another. For many of us there might be a long list of "to do" items that get put to the side. Try and think about what these are for yourself and put some dates to them? Are they things you want to pull into 2016? If, yes, put them aside to include in your goals as we get to that step. If you want to do them sooner than that, you still have 16 days of 2015 to get cracking. Maybe you can't finish but you can at least start and get some headway. What an awesome way to end the year feeling accomplished. 

As you think about these unfinished items, is there a reason you didn't finish them? Were they not important after all? Did you simply procrastinate? Did you have knee surgery and therefore couldn't get to the gym? Did you just forget? Really look at the reasons behind not getting these complete because it will help as we start setting new goals look at the motivation behind what helps you get things done.

I am going to now take some meds and hopefully sleep off this junk. Stay healhty peeps and don't forget to share as always.

 

 

sometimes facebook just knows that if you had a cat you'd name him maurice

I can't have cats. They make me sneeze. But I would like to think that if I DID in fact have a cat, I would be cool enough to name it "Maurice" I mean let's be honest, that is the coolest cat name ever.

I can't have cats. They make me sneeze. But I would like to think that if I DID in fact have a cat, I would be cool enough to name it "Maurice" I mean let's be honest, that is the coolest cat name ever.

I saw this video online yesterday in between videos of babies laughing and cats doing weird cat things. Yes, suddenly I am a cat video watcher and yes, I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

Anyway...


This video showed up in the "you might also like" section and so I though, hmm maybe Facebook DOES really know me and clicked on the play button.

This video asks the question "what would you tell your younger self?" But that question is asked all the time, so what makes this video any better?

You'll see...


Amazing, right?

this is basically advice you should take at all times, if you ask me....this 8 year old already has life figured out with just those two words..

this is basically advice you should take at all times, if you ask me....this 8 year old already has life figured out with just those two words..

After watching I couldn't help but think, "Why do we wait so long to speak the lesson out loud?" Do you think any of these people had thought about giving their selves permission to follow this sage advice before they were asked to be part of this video? I'm guessing not. Mainly because when I tried to think about what advice I would give to "last year's me", it too me a minute. But again, WHY?

How many of us need to hear this time and time again?

How many of us need to hear this time and time again?

We are learning all of the time but we go so fast, it takes us WAY to long to get what we were supposed to get out of things. We are all guilty of concentrating too hard on giving everyone ELSE advice and not working out the advice we should give to ourselves. I can wholeheartedly cop up to that. I'm not proud of it but I do know I am not alone.

So I wanted to make some sort of commitment to myself that would allow me to start talking to myself, forgiving myself and reminding myself of what I can let go of and what I should hold on tighter to. To myself and to you I say, let's slow down and take a minute, just one little tiny minute to think about what our life taught us in the last year (shoot, last week or even yesterday) and figure out how we can use it moving forward. Here is my first attempt...

to my 38 year old self I say this:

screw the people who tear you down and underestimate you. It can only mean one thing...

they clearly don’t know you very well!
— Signed a 39 Year Old

I wonder if the makers of this video realized that by doing this I have now displayed my age for all the world to see. Great, guess I'm gonna have to pull out my Aliyah CD's next year and tell my 39 year old self that "Age Ain't Nothing But a Number"


so thank you Facebook, for telling me what you think I would like today. Not only did I like this video but it was the perfect video at the perfect time. I love when that happens.

It's KISMET. oh and since you are so cool and read this I'll give you a tip...Come back Wednesday to hear a little more about Kismet. I think you'll like it and don't be selfish, share the wealth and tell your friends. We are trying to start a movement here. Sharing positive content and building people up. Now, that is something to get behind.

OH and don't forget to play along...tell me in the comments what you would tell your "last year's self"

waiting is for chumps & i don't know about you, but i ain't no chump

The bad news: there is no key to the universe. The good news: it was never locked...
— Author Unknown
my quest for experiences often means doing things that terrify me beyond any explanation. Proof of that is this Indoor Skydiving adventure with    I  Fly Seattle.

my quest for experiences often means doing things that terrify me beyond any explanation. Proof of that is this Indoor Skydiving adventure with I Fly Seattle.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I want to have a life of experiences.  I'm talking about big, scare the crap out of you, never regret missing out experiences. I do my best to do the things I have always wished I could do. Here’s the thing though, I let life get in the way sometimes.  I don’t know why, but I guess I just let fear and anxiety get in my way.  I suppose I’m not alone in this.  There’s a multi-million dollar book industry out there called “self help” to prove that I’m not alone.  We really are our worst enemy sometimes, or at the very least our biggest obstacle.

But why?

Why do we block our blessings when they are so obviously heading straight for us like a freight train? What are we so afraid of?  Better yet, how do we move past this type of thinking?  How do we move from fantasizing about the life we want and start living the life we want?

Yes, I do realize that the    Denver Airport    was not in fact trying to inspire me to take action with this sign. They really just wanted me to drive in circles until my person had arrived but inspiration comes in places you would least expect

Yes, I do realize that the Denver Airport was not in fact trying to inspire me to take action with this sign. They really just wanted me to drive in circles until my person had arrived but inspiration comes in places you would least expect

I saw this sign at the Denver airport that said “no waiting” and it suddenly clicked.  I now knew the answer to everything.  I took my picture which you can see below and went on my way.  For weeks afterward I sat myself down to reflect on what appeared so simple at the airport.  Only it didn’t seem so simple anymore.  “No Waiting”.  The phrase and the picture (a photographic gem if I do say so myself.  Thanks Hipstamatic) speak to me.  I just can’t seem to fully hear what the words are really saying.  It’s almost as if it is a whisper or worse, a riddle that I have to figure out.  It can’t really be that easy, can it?  Stop waiting? 

Or can it?

You can't just decide to STOP WAITING. You have to put some action into it. Here is part of my action...goal setting each year with intention. This is no joke, it's a long process and not done alone, you need accountbility when you stop waiting and we are not the best at doing that for ourselves.

You can't just decide to STOP WAITING. You have to put some action into it. Here is part of my action...goal setting each year with intention. This is no joke, it's a long process and not done alone, you need accountbility when you stop waiting and we are not the best at doing that for ourselves.

What happens if we stop waiting?  Well…I suppose we stop waiting!  But what are we waiting for anyways?  Someone to tell us it’s okay to be happy, successful, content, delighted, loved?  Come on, we are grown ass men & women here (excuse my language).  We know our worth, right?  We know that we deserve all of those things I listed and much more, right? We tell our friends and loved ones all the time, that they deserve better than what they are accepting, don’t we believe the same for ourselves?


I think we do.  I KNOW I do.

The day I decided to stop waiting on top of a hike in New Mexico at    Ojo Caliente    New Years 2013

The day I decided to stop waiting on top of a hike in New Mexico at Ojo Caliente New Years 2013

So, after a lot of time trying to complicate the matter I have decided to follow the direction of the sign, as I am convinced that it was just that, a sign.  I am not going to wait.  I’m gonna stop waiting for life to happen. I’m gonna stop waiting for someone to tell me what I think I want to hear.  I’m gonna stop waiting for something easy to come along.

Here is where I buried all my excuses. In the middle of the hike I found a spot. Took out a piece of paper and wrote all of the negative thoughts and things that were making me wait to live. I buried them in the sand, said a little prayer and left them there in the middle of that cold New Mexican Desert. And guess what?  Things started happening...

Here is where I buried all my excuses. In the middle of the hike I found a spot. Took out a piece of paper and wrote all of the negative thoughts and things that were making me wait to live. I buried them in the sand, said a little prayer and left them there in the middle of that cold New Mexican Desert. And guess what?  Things started happening...

Now I’ve heard it all before, “you have to be patient” but I believe that there is a difference between patience and ambivalence.  I think people live lives of ambivalence a lot of the time, waiting for someone, anyone to tell them it’s okay to LIVE and enjoy life, to experience it in all of its glory. So I will exercise patience when it is needed, but I will no longer wait for the sake of waiting.

I’m going after the life I want.  I’m taking every opportunity to grab every piece of happiness, love, pure unadulterated joy, success and delight that I can and I’m bringing you with me, because…well why not?


Before I leave, I thought I would share a few quotes about waiting from some people who know/knew what they were talking about.

So, my question for all of today is...

what are WE waiting for?

creative actions towards purpose and your red rubber ball

Last Friday I had the opportunity to attend an event put on by a group called Creative Mornings PDX. According to their website, "Creative Mornings is a breakfast lecture series for the creative community." They supply breakfast, coffee and an inspiring speaker. Each month they choose a theme and chapters all over the globe. SCORE!

How have I never heard of this before? Especially since upon further examination I saw that Brad Montague (of Kid President fame) has done one of the breakfast lectures. Let's just say I knew exactly what my weekend was going to be spent doing. (I mean, I of course have other scintillating plans as well so this will just be an addition to the already wild and crazy weekend I had planned.)

anyway...

I was doubly excited because the person speaking this month was none other than Kevin Carroll. You may recall me mentioning Kevin in a few past posts. 

Yeah, if it isn't obvious, this guy is inspiring. For this session he was speaking on the theme "ACTION". As a person who calls herself the "Chief Ideation Officer" of her own endeavors, the idea of action is a must have. As creatives, we tend to be people full of idea and inspired by the things around us, which is amazing. The struggle, sometimes is putting those ideas and inspirations into action. Dreamers can daydream non-stop. Often times we need to be prodded to keep moving forward on one project instead of jumping around to the next. 

I often speak to this idea of putting action towards your purpose and the question that always comes up is "HOW".  It isn't always easy. If you search hard enough you can find lots of obstacles to block your path. Nobody is going to stand and hold your hand. The truth is that you have to have "a thrust of spirit to do this, you have to want it" according to Kevin. Think about that for a minute... a "thrust of spirit". If you really want something you should be feeling some kind of emotional, physical and/or visceral thrust towards it. You have to feel deep in your spirit. That is what passion is all about. 

Passion isn't about liking something a little more than something else. It isn't about something being cool or popular. Passion is something that cannot be ignored. Surprisingly, passion isn't always sexy. It is a bully in a way. It gnaws at you if you ignore it, sending things in your life time and time again to smack you over the head until you notice it. Most people seek out their passion for a long time but ignore it when it comes to their door. You see, here is the thing, passion isn't just the love or the spirit of something, it has to include the thrust or the chase. Without an action, passion is becomes something different. It's spark starts to dull and it becomes something you yearn for from a far which causes pain. 

Your passion should never be the cause of your pain. Sweat, blood, tears and exhaustion, YES, but pain?Kevin's grandfather often spoke of this idea that "you can't do anything with a broke want." I have heard him say this a number of times and I like the idea more each time. We live in this weird time where "wanting" has become more important than "doing". It's as if we don't realize that if you want something YOU have to go get it. We actually expect other people to satisfy all of our wants and needs and when they deliver we become unsatisfied and can't figure out why.

I'm going to tell you why. We are unsatisfied because if something is truly OUR passion, we don't want someone else to wrap it up in a pretty bow and give it to us. Having a passion is about way more than wanting, it is about the journey. So cliche right? Maybe. Who cares, I happen to believe in the truth of it. You will never truly embrace your passion if you didn't do anything to bring it to life. 


There are a lot of talkers in the world (I should know I am totally a talker), but we need more doers (which I just realized is the tagline of a Home Depot commercial). If you are a talker then use your voice for something, talk about SOMETHING REAL. That is the way to be a doer. If you are a doer, make sure people see it, it will catch on. If you are both, then share what you have learned and how you have found your way.

There's a quote you have probably heard a hundred times; 

The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.
— Mark Twain

This implies that everyone is born with a purpose. Regardless of what you believe. I believe it is our duty to find that purpose and use it to make the world a better place. It is time that we stop being complacent with our purpose, it is time we put it into ACTION. Don't know what your purpose is yet? Time to get moving and find out.

I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.
— Albert Einstein

I can't thank Creative Mornings PDX and Kevin Carroll enough for an inspiring morning and for reminding me to act towards my purpose. 

P.S. After finding out Brad/Kid President did one of these as well, I immediately ran home and watched his. Since the one I went to is not yet up online, I thought I would share Brad's. It is truly inspiring and actually kind of follows the theme of "action" so it is a good addition to this post. 

jiminy cricket is a liar too.

Jiminy Cricket lied to us!

I should have probably followed that with some eerie dum dum dum" music for a more dramatic effect.

Sure he was best buds with Pinocchio (also a liar by the way) and he was really good at making it all sound amazing.

when you wish upon a star
makes not difference who you are
anything your heart desires
will come to you.
— When You Wish Upon A Star from Disney's Pinnochio

That's great and all, plus it's a very catchy tune but a wish is all it takes? I don't think so.

We live in a "wishing culture" and it's destroying our potential. Controversial, I suppose but I stick by my statement. Let me explain.

From our earliest memories we are taught to wish. Blow out your birthday candles "make a wish". See a shooting star, "make a wish". Write a letter to Santa Clause, "make a wish". Find one of those wishers in a field, "make a wish". In the U.S we put a lot of stock in wishes and dreams, heck our saying is "living the American dream." 

We are still a country of dreamers but something happened along the way, between the "greatest generation" and now. The dreams are still there, but the actions have fallen out of favor. The discussions of American ingenuity and hard work seem to have gone to the wayside. You can find motivational speakers, websites, tv shows, life coaches, books, music that inspires us to dream and wish for something better but where are the same people, places and things telling us that the wish is just the beginning?

the wish is just the beginning 

A wish is just that, but when you combine a wish with drive, dedication and HUSTLE, wishes become reality. Isn't that what we want? to make dreams come true just like Jiminy sang? The song is deceiving because it tells us that ALL we need to do is wish. If only it were that easy.

Anderson Cooper was on Oprah awhile back and said a quote that has always stuck with me; "Hope, is not a plan."  I remember at the time, writing the quote down because it was so simple and elegant but so on point. 

Hope, faith, wishing are crucial to survival, in my opinion. We can all wish for more, wish we could be or do something different, hope for a better life but until there is a plan in place, it is just something nice to think about from time to time in between life moments.

We have to be the architects of our wishes. We have to take the first step. Some lucky people get nudged but for most of us, we actually have to learn to walk towards are wishes. All it takes is one step. It can be big, or small, it doesn't really matter. I mean baby steps are still steps, so why not take one and see what happens." There is magic in taking steps towards something wonderful.

We struggle with moving forward. I suppose it's kind of like learning to walk for the first time, we're afraid of falling. But what are we going to do, never walk? NO, so we get up and we get a bruise or two (for us clumsier people maybe more than two.) But once we walk, we get to run!

So,  I want to challenge you. Next time you see a shooting star, admit to having a birthday, write to Santa or come across a wisher when you're on a walk, make your wish. But before you open your eyes, make sure the wish comes with a promise to take that one baby step towards making the wish happen. What do you have to lose? Bruises heal, missed opportunities however stick with us forever.

I want to apologize for putting Jiminy Cricket on blast. I didn't mean to hurt him or that beautiful song. Wishes do come true but not with out a a few bruises, sweat and tears but I suppose that doesn't make for a good fairy tale, does it.  I think I'm gonna go for a walk, till next time.

friday's three things: the roosevelts

originally aired september 2014

originally aired september 2014

Over the last week I began watching a special that Ken Burns did in cooperation with PBS.

The Roosevelts; An Intimate History focuses on one of the most influential families, if not THE most influential in American history. If you are a regular reader, you know I have an affinity for Eleanor Roosevelt. I am half way through this series and have grown fond of the bulk of the Roosevelt clan. While I knew who they were and some of what they have done. I was consistently surprised and amazed at just how much these three have done. Much of what we know and love in modern day America can be attributed to these three Roosevelts.

Since it is Friday's three things...I thought why not focus on these three people? Three people. Three quotes.


Theodore "Teddy" Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt

Franklin Delano Roosevelt




More and more I come to the view that in a really tremendous world struggle, with a great moral issue involved, neutrality does not serve righteousness; for to be neutral between right and wrong is to serve wrong.


— Theodore Roosevelt


I could not, at any age, be content to take my place by the fireside and simply look on. Life was meant to be lived. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.
— Eleanor Roosevelt


In these days of difficulty, we Americans everywhere must and shall choose the path of social justice, the path of faith, the path of hope, and the path of love toward our fellow man.


— Franklin Delano Roosevelt

Short and sweet. In closing, if you haven't seen The Roosevelts; An Intimate History it is definitely worth the watch. PBS has been replaying it but you can also check out the website from PBS on the special to purchase the collection of videos. Click on any of the images to learn more.


Get action. Do things. Be sane. Don’t fritter away your time; create, act, take a place wherever you are and be somebody.
— Theodore Roosevelt

P.S. Just because I can, one more quote to get you inspired for our three day weekend. I hope you all have a great weekend filled with family, friends, good food and lots of fun. 

Don't forget to come back Monday to learn all about Memorial Day so that we can all remember the real reason we have the day off!

she is cloaked in strength...

Happy Motivational Monday! This post is for all my strong women out there trying to move mountains.The key is to start within, believe in what we are capable of and realize that not everyone needs to like us. We, on the other hand have to like ourselves. And why wouldn't we? 

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Have you seen us lately?

We are smart, but not that unapproachable smart, more like the kind of smart that puts people at ease and makes them tell us their stories. Because of this level of intelligence, we are also blessed with humor, like laugh out loud funny but also that sly witty type of humor that surprises people, drives their curiosity and makes it impossible to skip our name on any invitation list. It's not a party with out us. 


We are cloaked in strength that lifts, encourages and builds. It is a quiet strength that doesn't boast. It is seen in surprising places to others, but deep down we have always known it is there if we ever needed it. Often we use it for everyone but ourselves which makes it easy to forget but take a look, it is there. When we see it, we need to take it out, for us. It is this strength that will push us through.


Have you looked in the mirror, I mean really looked? We are gorgeous, maybe not super model gorgeous but that's because super model looks, aren't real. We are real. We share our beauty in our smile, our eyes, our lines and our curves. It makes other's sing songs, write poetry and know what love is. It's not contrived or airbrushed, it is pure, unique. It is us.


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So again, why wouldn't we like ourselves? Why wouldn't we love ourselves?  Truth is once we do...everything is possible. 


 

one last thing...

It helps to remember how phenomenal we are when we look at our phenomenal women. One of my favorite reminders in "Phenomenal Woman" by Maya Angelou. It is a must for any bookshelf. (click on the image to get your own copy.)