recalibrate

we all fall down sometimes but are you going to do this or what?

Now that I am back in action on this blog thing, I realized that I missed the mid-year check in on my goal setting for the year. YES, even people who blog about setting goals, sometimes lose sight of them. I get busy, some fire alarm needs to be addressed and the goals go to the wayside. Basically, life gets in the way.

While it stings a little to lose sight of your goals and admit failure, it is also the most honest and authentic part of the process. 

we all fall down sometimes

So this picture right here is totally a #waybackwednesday but surprising and thank my lucky stars I actually don't have a ton of pictures of me falling down. What worries me is who else might...yikes. oh and Go SEAHAWKS

So this picture right here is totally a #waybackwednesday but surprising and thank my lucky stars I actually don't have a ton of pictures of me falling down. What worries me is who else might...yikes. oh and Go SEAHAWKS

Coming to terms with that realization is probably the biggest indicator of ultimately meeting your goals in the end. It is an indicator because of the hard conversation you have to have with yourself when you do slack off or fall down. It is in that moment when you  have to make the decision of whether your goal really means something to you or not. It is in this moment when you are faced with a challenge that you get to decide 

am i doing this or not?

Full transparency here? If I hadn't of scrolled through some old blog posts, I may have forgot all about my 2016 goals UNTIL I sat down to write my 2017 goals. I could have skated for the rest of the year but...and here is the rub, I hate losing. I am uber competitive even when I know I have no chance of winning. 

and competing with myself? Oh man, that's when the real competitor comes out. I am my biggest critic. It should be known, however, that I am also my biggest fan. I just expect a lot along the way. I want to be sure that when I am cheering myself on, it is because of something great. 

So, all of that is to say, I didn't do too well in the first half of the year. 

Let's take a look at the scorecard. If you want to hold me accountable check out the original post "Goals Require You Put Some Skin in the Game."

In my defense, I have had some foot issues that have prevented any kind of major exercise. HOWEVER, that does not excuse the extra food I was eating and not burning off. #noexcuses

In my defense, I have had some foot issues that have prevented any kind of major exercise. HOWEVER, that does not excuse the extra food I was eating and not burning off. #noexcuses

Lose 25 Pounds by April 6, 2016

I am giving myself a giant F here. Not only did I not lose any weight, I actually gained some weight since I made the goal. How did this happen? It is simple. I blamed being busy when in reality, I was being lazy and didn't follow any of the guidelines I set in place to hit the goal. I got back on the wagon last week with food and this week with some light exercise so I am going to re-instate this goal. 

One way to get me moving here? I have a bet with a co-worker to lose the weight by our Christmas party, December 4th. There is big money on the line but more important is pride.  Remember when I told you I was competitive? I was not joking. I can not let my co-worker win. He is going DOWN! - goal back in action.

Maybe I was just waiting for this dope address?

Maybe I was just waiting for this dope address?

Buy a house by April 2016

For this I will actually give myself an A-. I did in fact buy a house, it just happened a month late. The whole process took much longer than I had anticipated in this crazy Portland housing market  But I am on board now and know I am going to have to really focus on my financial goals for 2017 to keep the momentum going.

A great session in March with the    "Retail Optical Circle"    brought to you by Vision Ease and Zyloware

A great session in March with the "Retail Optical Circle" brought to you by Vision Ease and Zyloware

Book 5-10 Speaking Gigs by June 2016

I will rate this a solid C. I have booked some gigs, although not quite 10, I did meet the minimum number. The only reason I am not grading higher is because I didn't actually do a lot to get these gigs. I got so wrapped up in the new house and my "day job" that I didn't actually focus on the tasks I had outlined for myself. The jobs I did book were due to word of mouth and recommendations, which by the way is AWESOME. It, however doesn't let me off the hook for doing what I set out to do. That means I am re-instating this goal as well and will finish what I started by the end of November 2016.

Randomly this picture was taken on the day I was supposed to have met all of my goals in April. Oops.

Randomly this picture was taken on the day I was supposed to have met all of my goals in April. Oops.

Monthly connections with friends and family

This is harder to rate. In some ways I have made headway in this and in others I have let the day to day get in the way of what I really wanted to do here. I will also admit that this was the most lackadaisical of the goal I set for myself and didn't have a lot of meat to it, which is probably why it is so hard to rate. I have made a heck of an effort when it comes to my adorable little nephew but probably haven't done the best at keeping in touch with friends, especially the ones who are out of state. I think I need to better understand how I want to execute this one before I re-instate it so that I am setting the right expectation. In the end it is mainly about not becoming a hermit.

How are you progressing towards the goals you set for yourself this year? Have you fallen off? Is it time to re-engage and recalibrate? If so, join me in re-committing yourself to your goals and lets end 2016 better than we started it. 

Thanks go out to    ponder & muse    for the cool graphic

Thanks go out to ponder & muse for the cool graphic

words, words, all kinds of words... i put my thing down, flip it & reverse it

Ok, so I realize that those are the lyrics from 2 different Missy Elliott songs, but whatever, it got your attention, didn't it?

I love words. It seems weird to me that we don't pay more attention to words in our every day lives. Words change, explain,  comfort and at times even confuse but at the end of the day our lives are surrounding by words. Many use words to tear down and destroy people, places and things, which is very unfortunate. On the other hand, some people use words to lift up other people and bring positivity where there otherwise may not have been any.

It is because of this that I believe in borrowing a few words for yourself that you can lean on, words that can inspire you...

words you can live by.

It is because of this that years ago I decided to choose a few words that best represented me as a person. I called the exercise "5 words". The words change from time to time as I change, which is what should happen. So here they are as of today...

my 5 words...

Art work provided by:    Ponder and Muse (Kristin Crocker)

Art work provided by: Ponder and Muse (Kristin Crocker)


Here's the thing, it isn't always easy to "live life in an exclamation point". You need help. Having words that remind me of who I am and what I want out of life, keeps me in the exclamation point.

Check out below to hear more about the concept of 5 words and then tell me...


what are your 5 words?

tell me in the comments below...

time to turn it on

It is time for us to turn it up a notch on our manifesto's. I know I took a little break and for that you have my apologies. The truth is I hit a road block while building mine. 

I had gathered images, quotes, different pieces of inspiration but it didn't feel right. Has there ever happened to you? You are cruising, everything is going great and then.

 

You go blank. Well that has been me for the last couple of weeks when ever my manifesto came to mind.  I felt like I had let you all down until I realized that this was probably a very normal moment. 

Years ago I was in Vegas at a trade show. I was going through a rough time and felt a little lost. I met with a colleague from another company. She was this young, hip, stylish lady who just seemed like she had it all together. We sipped on margaritas as she listened to my sad story of the moment. Once I completed, she looked up from her straw and said

"dawne, you just need to recalibrate."

Recalibrate, what a great word. In case you are wondering, I have a small little obsession with words. I even offer a session called "5 Words" that focuses on how words can set you up for success.

Remembering that moment, I realized that maybe that was exactly what I needed to do regarding my manifesto. I needed to recalibrate and take a moment to redirect my efforts. I did a little meditation session, took a few walks, reading books, writing in my journal and being at peace with the fact that for the time being I wasn't working on my manifesto, in fact I wasn't working on much at all. At first I felt guilty, then I realized if this is what I needed then I should feel guilty if I DIDN'T do it.

Now I realize, not everyone can just "take a break" from their life, especially for a manifesto project they read about on a blog. But a break, doesn't have to be a week or even a full day, but it is crucial that we all recognize when we NEED to take a moment and recalibrate. How you do it is irrelevant, it just matters that you do it. Most of us get so worked up and busy with the daily rigmarole of our lives that suddenly we look up and realize we are sick, tired, unhappy and a host of other awful words that don't describe the life we imagined.

So for this Friday, I want to tell you that we are back on track with our manifesto project. There is no specific timeline we need to follow, it is pretty free flowing. The one thing I do ask of everyone, is that you take a moment. Don't wait to take it until it is urgent. Try to figure out a space in your day/week to take a moment for you. Use it to do what works for you, maybe it's a walk, maybe it's a bath, maybe it's a pedicure. It doesn't matter. Take it and while you are doing it remember...

no guilt!

taking care of ourselves should always be a number one priority. 

We can not truly make anyone else a priority if we don't first make ourselves one. It. sounds cliche, I realize that but sometimes those cliche's were created for a reason. What I feel pretty confident about thought is the following:

When you put yourself first other's reap the rewards.