I look so depressed here....I swear it was a joyous occasion. So glad the camera got this look.
My name is Dawne and
I am a crier.
I know I probably shouldn't say that but if you are ever to know me then you should know this. You might now be saying, ok but what does that mean?
It means i cry A LOT! I cry for every single range of emotion that is out there, even when I am happy. This is not a joke. Here are just a few examples of inconvenient places I have cried.
these dang beach balls are dangerous and the cause of much embarassment
The day I graduated from college. Not totally unusual except that I was doing it and blowing my nose at the same time when my face came on the jumbo-tron during the ceremony and then a beachball came and hit my square in the face all caught on the screen. (my family still laughs at this to this day.)
I was told by the bride that if I was going to cry I had to turn around because if I cried she would cry. So here I am turning around. It should be known the bride also gave me a hankie with the words "no ugly crying" embroidered on it. She gets me.
Seriously camera guy? If you look here, you can see my biting my lip in an effort to not cry. It's like the camera man feels the need to just zoom in on this super attractive moment
Weddings. Again not an unusual place to cry but I have been known to cry so hard that at one wedding I was part of the bridal party, standing next to the bride and was crying so hard the groom stopped in the middle of the ceremony to lean over and make sure I was okay. (talk about embarrassing)
I was most certainly crying here and may or may not have been also screaming obscenities (sorry mom)
watching kids play sports, perform in plays, sing, basically anything - even when I don't know the kids
my bosses office (too many times to count)
on stage in front of hundreds of people
restaurants, coffee shops, bars
indoor sky diving, zip lining, white water rafting (all from sheer terror)
I have even cried at Disneyland and Knott's Berry Farm (one time due to fear, the other out of joy)
Is it any wonder I am single?
I don't know why this is but over the years I have learned to like this quality about myself. I like it in part because I think it makes me empathetic to others. I feel things deeply and can use that to understand others better.
It is because of this that I am saying what I am about to say:
it is okay to cry.
YUP, I said it
I have no idea when the world decided that crying was a sign of weakness but somewhere along the line that is what happened. We tell boys that they shouldn't cry when they are young. We tell women they shouldn't cry at work because it makes them "girls" and weak. I hate to say this but in the past I think I agreed and told myself not to cry at work...
"they" are wrong
i was wrong
I look at it differently now. It took looking at all of my personality traits and the package I bring to the table to change my perspective. When I did this not only was I realize crying was an asset but I also realized how rare it is that we take the time to consider our "good" qualities. For some awful reason we focus on all the things we consider negative or that we want to fix which keeps us in the wrong frame of mind. It keeps us negative.
I want to be positive.
I'm not talking about that cheesy, this girl can't be for real kind of positive. I'm talking the authentic, comes out of your pores and makes you glow and creates confidence kind of positive.
I cry because I care. I cry because I am passionate about my beliefs. I cry because I feel the emotion being presented deeply. Admittedly, this can sometimes work against me but that is because people don't understand it. Everyone says they want someone caring, passionate and understanding...
that's what crying is all about
Let's let people know that CRYING IS STRENGTH!!!!!
at least my kinda crying. So I say this, crying can and should be associated with strength and compassion. We should want those two qualities in people, employees, bosses, family, loved ones, friends, politicians, neighbors etc.
I am not saying that breaking down every few seconds is the key to life. But...an occasional tear or two once in awhile would probably good for everyone. I mean who doesn't cry when watching "The Lion King"?
So, here is my ask of you my faithful readers. Let's all stop associating crying with weakness. Let's not use derogatory language when speaking of crying, let's stop apologizing for having emotions which is a perfect natural thing.
heck, let's have a cry together (if you want)
I leave you with this quote I heard while watching the Steve Harvey Show today.