woman crush wednesday

maybe it's time to crush on an idea.

Remember as a kid that feeling of having your first crush? It was both awful and exhilarating all at the same time. Where has that feeling gone? I realize part of the rush of the experience is that it was new when we were young but I feel like many people chase that feeling throughout life. It is almost like being an addict and chasing down that first hit and the euphoria it gave you. 

Since the social world has deemed today, "#WCW or Woman Crush Wednesday" it started to think about the idea of having a crush and how we interact with that concept as adults. As we age and get married etc, having a crush on someone can get a little sticky. How can we get the same feeling with out crushing on some cute gal/guy? I was thinking, why not have a crush on an idea instead?  

We could crush on what we want to do next, where you would like to go, someone you would like to meet, something you want to learn etc. When we had those crushes as kids, don't you remember how we acted? We wrote their name down in our notebooks, we day-dreamed about them, wondered if they were thinking about us.

We started doing things out of character like pretending we know how to bake, and maybe get so caught up in the day dream that we forgot that something was in the oven and maybe we burned it.

i mean, i've heard that happens to some people, not me but...

Basically we all created a back story and future story for ourselves where we live happily ever after. What if that same effort were directed at ideas for you and your future? Couldn't that turn into something pretty substantial? All those minutes and hours spent thinking about the what if's of life only now we have the means to do something about it. We know how to put things into action. 

For many years, people used to tell me that I should write a book or a blog. I used to always think they were crazy and then one day I got a crush on the idea.

No joke. I started to ask myself what if and once I did that I thought about it all the time. What would I write about? Who would actually read it? Why would they read it? Would it be any good? After some time having a crush on this idea, it dawned on me that there was no reason I couldn't go after my crush. The only person stopping me was me, so I did it. Small at first of course. I am a walk before I run kinda girl.

It's been a few months and believe or not my crush has gotten stronger. It's what I think about at all hours of the day and night. I've even been known to wake up in the middle of the night freaking out with an idea of something to change or add or even delete. I start thinking that I forgot to say exactly what I meant or maybe I wrote something that could be misinterpreted. 

"there is a huge responsibility that comes along with putting your thoughts out into the universe." - me

In other words I am driving myself crazy. But...it is that good, butterflies in the stomach, dizzy lightheaded feeling you get when your crush looks back at you and for a split second you think "oh my gosh, he just looked at me". I want to pass notes to my friends and readers that say "do you like what I am posting? check the box that applies". Basically I feel like a kid again but in a good way. It is almost like being able to go back in time knowing what I know now and belong able to apply it. It's really exciting.

My guess is that you are now wondering what my point is. The point is that a "crush" can be a lot of different things and it's a good idea to find one. They get endorphin's pumping, make you giggle to yourself sometimes and smile. We all now how powerful a smile is. 

what do you have a crush on? what will you do about it?

crushing close to home

It's Woman Crush Wednesday. I am featuring someone a little more close to home this week. As you may remember, the goal of this series is to feature women who are pushing the boundaries and following their purpose with hustle, grit and grace. 

Right now I can think of no one better fitting that category than the curator of The Written Runway. This blog/site was started as a way to share a love of fashion and make it tangible off the runway for people in their every day lives.

The muse is Ambyr, a FIDM graduate, stylist, social media expert, writer and overall fashion junkie. You can learn all about her at the site. What I am going to write about is why she is my crush this week and why you should crush on her too.

In today's world it is sadly difficult to find people who truly do hustle. I am talking about the type of person who isn't just chasing money, they aren't asking for other people to do all of the hard work. The people I am talking about dig in with both hands and those hands get dirty. They do whatever it takes to follow their purpose. It is not always easy. In fact most of the time it is actually very hard, but this type of person keeps after it anyway. That is the type of woman Ambyr is. 

She grew up in a farm/wine town in Oregon. It was a small upbringing but Ambyr never was small. From her earliest moments she always had a fire to her. She would demand things that other kids were too afraid to ask for. It was almost as if she knew that if she didn't speak up from the start then she never would. So she did.

Ambyr was always one to be on the edge of fashion trends from her earliest days. So as she graduated high school and was deciding which direction to go nobody was surprised to see her choose to go to California. While in there she graduated from the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising (FIDM). She did this on her own, while holding down a full time job and living over an hour away from the school. It wasn't easy. There were many tears shed, many nights of little to no sleep. But she persevered. 

Once she graduated, she found the real world to be a lot less kinder than expected. Jobs in fashion look very glamorous on screen and in print, but the reality is often much different. Lots of girls with dreams of fashion come to Los Angeles. In my experience, a lot of those girls do NOT come from humble beginnings. Yes, some most certainly do, but a lot of the girls I saw around Ambyr at this time were being taken care of financially by parents and family members. They were able to take these jobs for very little pay where as oftentimes other girls can't.

Here is the thing about that though. Those girls may have been willing to accept a lower salary but the employers had to accept a lower quality of work. Ambyr on the other hand had to work multiple jobs to make ends meet. Yet her energy level and work ethic never faltered. She was able to work with a number of different celebrity stylists and learn from experts in her field. She earned a reputation as a hard working, passionate and kind person who would treat your business as if it was her own.  

If that wasn't enough, at this time she also started her own blog/website, The Written Runway. This was a way for her to interact with the world of fashion on her own terms, through her own brand. Blogs are very popular, many people do them, HECK, you're reading mine right now. Her's is different though. She could have monetized her site in many ways that would help her financially but she has been very particular with who she wants to partner with. She doesn't want to dilute her message. She wants to provide an honest commentary on how she sees fashion. 

Luckily for her, people have noticed. in 2013 she moved to Washington DC where she was able to secure opportunities with a number of people in the industry and build up her skill set even more. Working with Fashion Group International, TAA PR, The Vogue Bloggers Network, The Independent Fashion Blogger Association as well as many more. 

mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously:
— dictionary.com

She is my WCW because quit isn't in her vocabulary. She isn't where she wants to be yet, and as a young person that can be very demotivating, but it's almost as if she can see something in the distance and so she keeps running. FORTITUDE, I think that's what they call it. and a crush is definitely what I have.

Oh, and did I mention that Ambyr is my sister? I might have failed to mention it before on purpose. I didn't want you to think I was biased. My guess is after reading this and check out her site, that is not a concern you will have.

Today I am at the Women in Sports & Events (WISE) Synposium so stay tuned to hear all about it Friday,

that'll do pig

Today for "woman crush wednesday" I am choosing Miss Piggy. Some might think this is an unconventional but those people don't know Piggy. She was recently honored with the "Sackler Center First Award" from the Elizabeth A. Sackler CEnter for Feminist Art at the Brooklyn Museum.  Can I get a HECK YEAH!

Miss Piggy has been at the forefront of the "I am Woman, Hear me Roar" movement from the beginning. She never let Kermie define her. She always had an opinion and has always been fabulous.  Add to all of that the fact that she is un-apologetically who she is at all times and It is about time we talk about her.  

I believe that any woman who refuses to accept society’s preconceived notions of who or what they can be is a feminist. I believe any woman who is willing to struggle, strive — and if necessary learn karate — to make their mark in the world is a feminist. And, yes, I believe that any woman, who cares about her appearance, her star billing and most especially her percentage of the gross, is a feminist.
— Miss Piggy

This award is given to women who have "Broken barriers and chartered changes in all disciplines and areas.  Piggy gets to share this honor with such amazing women as; Toni Morrison, Julie Taymor and Supreme Court Justice, Sandra Day.

Rather than me tell you how ahead of the curve Miss Piggy is, I am going to let her tell you. Upon receiving this honor, Piggy wrote an opp ed piece for Time Magazine and it is a must read. (click on any of the images to see the full article).

Go check out Piggy's full letter by clicking any of her pictures on this page. Once you do, pretty sure you will be crushing hard.

woman crush wednesday - Mindy kaling

Social media has changed the landscape of how we talk. While on the surface I totally knew that, it wasn't until recently that it made me feel a bit out of the loop. I kept seeing the hashtag "#wcw", better known to people who actually speak words instead of initials as "Woman Crush Wednesday". Once I l got someone much younger than me to tell me what it meant in actual words, I realized, I need to get behind this whole WCW hoopla. 

Because of that Wednesdays on the blog, for the time being are going to be dedicated to my Woman Crushes. Now before you go thinking this is some other kind of blog.

Let me explain. Each Wednesday I will share with you a profile on a different woman I am crushing on because of what she is doing to make the world a better place. GOOD IDEA RIGHT?

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Since I just came up with the idea, I decided that week one would be someone everyone knows but in the future I will feature all types of women from business, arts, culture and even a few of my friends.

This week I chose Mindy Kaling.

If you are asking why. Then you don't know Mindy. Technically  don't know here know her but that is why she is one of my fave's. It feels like I do know her. Sr she has written for the Office, and now runs her own show which she created, and stars in (Mindy Project). That means she's a girl boss. (we all know I love that.) That's all great, fantastic even but have you seen her hilarious tweets and instagram posts? If not, I will give you a second to go "like" those pages now and then you can thank me later. If that isn't enough to convince you to also have a crush on Mindy, then read her book (soon to be plural).

But the REAL reason I am crushing so hard? 

She speaks her mind. She says the things you're not supposed to say but you think, so why shouldn't you? I could list all of the things she has accomplished and the walls she has broken down, but I think that is focusing on the obvious things. They're great, don't get me wrong but... I crush on her for that and so much more.

There’s this mentality that there can only be one woman who is successful and funny and running her own show and if there’s more than that you must hate each other.
— Mindy Kaling

I crush on her because sometimes I swear she read my diary and makes it sound funny and normal, charming even. That takes some real talent. She is using her voice, pushing the envelope and making a statement, all with out purpose or malice. That is the kind of person that makes the world more awesome.

Plus...she is flipping hilarious!

I say if you love something, set it in a small cage and pester and smother it with love until it either loves you back or dies.
— Mindy Kaling

Come back Friday for part 2 of our "writing your manifesto" series. Hope you've been working on your brainstorming.