storytellers gotta talk, storytellers gotta write

Writing is the best way to talk without being interrupted.
— Jules Renard
my very first diary circa the 80's

my very first diary circa the 80's

No wonder, I enjoy writing so much.  Whether writing for this particular blog, writing a letter or writing in my journal, there is something about writing that makes me happy.  My  love affair with writing began early.  In fact someone gave me a diary in elementary school and that seemed to be the catalyst for a life of writing. 

Although it might not have been the most auspicious beginning.  I also wrote a lot for school, including an award winning article on what the Statue of Liberty means to me in the 4th grade. It’s okay to be impressed by this, if I could put it on my resume, I probably would. 

oh yeah, I was very profound in my youth. all about cute boys and club meetings. I don't even know what club I am writing about.

oh yeah, I was very profound in my youth. all about cute boys and club meetings. I don't even know what club I am writing about.

Award winning elementary school articles aside, it turns out I didn’t have a whole lot of deep thoughts to write down in a journal.  So the journal took a bit of a hiatus until my years of teenage angst started to occur.  (On a side note, my Mom likes to say this started at 13 but my recollection puts it closer to 15 or 16.)

Yup, red jeans and a 90210 calendar, I was quite the cool kid in school 1992

Yup, red jeans and a 90210 calendar, I was quite the cool kid in school 1992

It was at about this time, a great friend of mine (Leiat) suggested that if I enjoyed writing for school so much, I should probably revisit the idea of a diary or journal and gave me one as a gift.  (It should be known that she gifted me the journal complete with a pair of bright red jeans.  So YES, I was very cool back in the day.) 


these are just a small sampling of the journals I used in High School

these are just a small sampling of the journals I used in High School

It was all over after that.  I wrote every single day and brought with me everywhere I went. Often times, note taking in school was replaced by journal writing.  I even at times had other people write in there too.  I attempted poetry (it was all extremely BAD poetry), I wrote about what I was feeling, what I wanted, was needed, missed, loved, obsessed over, you name it, I wrote it. I still write it.

You may be asking yourself, okay, great but why are you telling us this?  I’m telling you this because I am not a writer, not a real one anyways.  I didn’t major in English, I don’t always know the proper place for a comma or even more a semi-colon and I definitely struggle with rules around writing.  (I can never remember what the heck a preposition is anyways.)  But all that said I still write.  Why do I do it?  Here is a list of just some of the reasons:

  • it makes me feel good

  • it helps me process my thoughts

  • It helps me purge negative energy

  • It gives me good ideas

  • It feeds creative energy

One quote I found describes it in a much better way that I just did

For me, writing is exploration; and most of the time, I’m surprised where the journey takes me.
— author unknown

I talk to each of you in individual conversations I realize that we’re all looking for something that makes us feel the way I described above.  We’re looking for an outlet to help us get out of our own heads and focus on the positive.  Maybe writing isn’t for everyone, BUT maybe it is for YOU.  And maybe you’ve been thinking about doing it but something prevented you from picking up a pen.  I thought maybe if I shared some of my thoughts on the subject that you might grab a pen and start scribbling your thoughts.  If my experience doesn't motivate you maybe these quotes will.

Forget all the rules. Forget about being published. Write for yourself and celebrate writing.
— Melinda Haynes
Close the door. Write with no one looking over your shoulder. Don’t try to figure out what other people want to hear from you; figure out what you have to say. It’s the one and only thing you have to offer.
— Barbara Kingsolver

The world needs more storytellers. People who use their words to speak up and out. So grab a pen, tell your own story. Even if it is just for you, expression is contagious.


Have a great weekend!

maybe it's time to crush on an idea.

Remember as a kid that feeling of having your first crush? It was both awful and exhilarating all at the same time. Where has that feeling gone? I realize part of the rush of the experience is that it was new when we were young but I feel like many people chase that feeling throughout life. It is almost like being an addict and chasing down that first hit and the euphoria it gave you. 

Since the social world has deemed today, "#WCW or Woman Crush Wednesday" it started to think about the idea of having a crush and how we interact with that concept as adults. As we age and get married etc, having a crush on someone can get a little sticky. How can we get the same feeling with out crushing on some cute gal/guy? I was thinking, why not have a crush on an idea instead?  

We could crush on what we want to do next, where you would like to go, someone you would like to meet, something you want to learn etc. When we had those crushes as kids, don't you remember how we acted? We wrote their name down in our notebooks, we day-dreamed about them, wondered if they were thinking about us.

We started doing things out of character like pretending we know how to bake, and maybe get so caught up in the day dream that we forgot that something was in the oven and maybe we burned it.

i mean, i've heard that happens to some people, not me but...

Basically we all created a back story and future story for ourselves where we live happily ever after. What if that same effort were directed at ideas for you and your future? Couldn't that turn into something pretty substantial? All those minutes and hours spent thinking about the what if's of life only now we have the means to do something about it. We know how to put things into action. 

For many years, people used to tell me that I should write a book or a blog. I used to always think they were crazy and then one day I got a crush on the idea.

No joke. I started to ask myself what if and once I did that I thought about it all the time. What would I write about? Who would actually read it? Why would they read it? Would it be any good? After some time having a crush on this idea, it dawned on me that there was no reason I couldn't go after my crush. The only person stopping me was me, so I did it. Small at first of course. I am a walk before I run kinda girl.

It's been a few months and believe or not my crush has gotten stronger. It's what I think about at all hours of the day and night. I've even been known to wake up in the middle of the night freaking out with an idea of something to change or add or even delete. I start thinking that I forgot to say exactly what I meant or maybe I wrote something that could be misinterpreted. 

"there is a huge responsibility that comes along with putting your thoughts out into the universe." - me

In other words I am driving myself crazy. But...it is that good, butterflies in the stomach, dizzy lightheaded feeling you get when your crush looks back at you and for a split second you think "oh my gosh, he just looked at me". I want to pass notes to my friends and readers that say "do you like what I am posting? check the box that applies". Basically I feel like a kid again but in a good way. It is almost like being able to go back in time knowing what I know now and belong able to apply it. It's really exciting.

My guess is that you are now wondering what my point is. The point is that a "crush" can be a lot of different things and it's a good idea to find one. They get endorphin's pumping, make you giggle to yourself sometimes and smile. We all now how powerful a smile is. 

what do you have a crush on? what will you do about it?