Small Little Fiesta

Since moving back to Portland, I haven't had the opportunity to do many events (persoal or professional). Things have been so hectic, that part of my life and business didn't get a lot of love. That all changed last weekend. I had the honor of hosting a small little fiesta in honor of my Mom turning the big 60. (Yup, I just put her age on blast for the whole world wide web to see.)

sorry mom

I am guessing she should be too upset, because 60 is YOUNG especially to have 4 grown kids and still be kicking butt and taking names like a boss. I digress.

As most of you have probably experienced in your own life, buying a gift for your Mom is not always the easiest thing in the world to do. For most of their "mom existence" they get the short end of the stick, what with clay sculptures of their kids hands and macaroni art work. As I have gotten older, there are some years it is easier than others, a good concert or show comes to town, SCORE. But this was 60. I can't just run into Chico's and get her a chic outfit for the modern woman, that was so 59.

I made an attempt to rent a dance floor for the ladies but my yard is not yet level so it didn't look or feel the way it should but it definitley got me excited about the idea of a permanent dance floor in my backyard. PROJECT!

I made an attempt to rent a dance floor for the ladies but my yard is not yet level so it didn't look or feel the way it should but it definitley got me excited about the idea of a permanent dance floor in my backyard. PROJECT!

It was for this reason that I chose to do one of the things I do best, host a little shin-dig. Apparently my mom and her friends are way cooler and more popular than I am because trying to nail down schedules was not the easiest task so at the last minute I just picked a date and hoped for the best. Sadly that meant some awesome ladies couldn't make it but we soldiered on.

If you read my last post you know that I am in a new house. What you may not know is that they house needs a LOT of work still but I figured if we did something on a warm summer night in the unfinished back yard and added some pretty lights I could probably get away with a good evening.

Sorry potential stalkers, I blocked out my address. A girls has gotta  be safe, ya know.

Sorry potential stalkers, I blocked out my address. A girls has gotta  be safe, ya know.

I chose an easy and quick theme and hurried to create an invitation that would be festive and fun. Who doesn't want to attend a "fiesta"? I mean the word, the colors, the yummy food? It is just a guaranteed winner. So I sent it out to all my Mom's favorite lady peeps.

Then the real work began...menu and trying to figure out how to make my "really needs work" backyard into something halfway decent and worthy of the "fiesta" title. 

table setting view...thank goodness some of the ladies took pictures on their phones.

table setting view...thank goodness some of the ladies took pictures on their phones.

getting crafty

I would like to say that this paint is actually awesome. I have used it for a ton of other projects, it just didn't provide the sheen I wanted for the paper pinata...Love   Krylon Paint   though.

I would like to say that this paint is actually awesome. I have used it for a ton of other projects, it just didn't provide the sheen I wanted for the paper pinata...Love Krylon Paint though.

I tried to get crafty. Thanks to Pinterest, I always TRY and get craft...but my stuff NEVER looks like it does on Pinterest. I decided I would paint some pinatas and make them gold because in case you can't tell from my logo...

i love gold

My before pictures were great, ahh the best intentions, but forgot to take any after pics, so this is the after, after, a few days later...gold scottie dogs.

My before pictures were great, ahh the best intentions, but forgot to take any after pics, so this is the after, after, a few days later...gold scottie dogs.

While they didn't turn out horrible, I totally used the wrong style of paint so it came out a little dull. I also totally forgot to take the eyeballs of the pinata first so with out eyeballs and color, they looked more like gold scottie dogs. Again, not awful but not what I was going for. I added some pink tassels and they still did the job. Sadly, this was not my first epic fail of the night.

I won't bore you with too many of the details but I figure the sign of any good party is the food and the booze so I thought I would at least share the menu with you and one of the epic fails related to the food. I found a great recipe. where else? Pinterest. It was for shrimp & chorizo skewers.

yum

First, let me tell you that i accidentally download ransomwaer software on my computer earlier the week. Because of that I lost every single file on my computer. OH YEAH, every single one. Crushing for my work. BUT, one of the lost files was my party planning deck. Yes, I am that kind of nerdy planner. Without it, my week completely got away from me and nothing happened as it should have.

when life disingrates your skewers, you make deliciousness

when life disingrates your skewers, you make deliciousness

I not longer had my shopping list so I had to pull up the Pinterest pages while at the grocery store. Once there, the simple recipe I thought I found looked much more complicated and with way to many ingredients but I had already go the meat from the butcher so I did the unthinkable...

i wung it.

long story short. my skewers disintegrated on the grill. (yes I soaked them first but still...) I used some quick thinking, took it off the grill, sauteed it added some garlic, butter and cheese...turned out delicious. 

phew

Here is the rest of the menu. 

COCKTAILS (because, duh...)

  • Homemade Sangria

  • Margaritas (regular & guava)

APPETIZERS

  • Shrimp & Chorizo Skewers (minus the skewer)

  • Guacamole

  • Mango Salsa

  • Salsa

  • Green Salsa

DINNER

  • Chicken Enchiladas

  • Steak & Chicken Fajitas

DESSERT

once the food came, the drink table got a little less pretty and a little more exciting

once the food came, the drink table got a little less pretty and a little more exciting

man, I love food...

man, I love food...

The party never would have come together with out the help of a friend of mine from Purple Lilly Events. Toni helped with some of the food and the amazing cake. In general she was a life saver. Toni does all sorts of events but specializes in weddings. Check out her site by clicking her company name above.

That's it. It was a wrap. Happy Birthday to my wonderful Mom and big shout to all the ladies who attended and those who couldn't. It was a great night and such an awesome way to christen my new home for events.

 

till next week,

dawne

the life and times of a pineapple

image found on Pinterest - unsure of original source. 

image found on Pinterest - unsure of original source. 

I'm going to tell you a secret here. I am a curious person by nature. I like to understand how things work and why they happen. That being said, I have never in my life wondered where the pineapple came from. 

what?

I know, crazy, right? How in the world could I not have wondered about where a pineapple. The gall. I've just been wandering around eating this delicious fruit with no thought into its illustrious history. All of the sudden, however, I was noticing pineapples everywhere. Apparently, the pineapple is the new cool thing. I see them on socks, dishes and according to one of the millenials who work for me there is even a style of music called tropical pineapple house. (okay maybe it is just tropical house, I don't really know but for some reason I think it has something to do with actual pineapples...but maybe that is a sign of me not being cool enough to know, oh well.) 

Who knew?

It is very had to ignore pineapples right now. Then, a couple of weeks ago I was out hunting at a local neighborhood garage sale and I came across the most EPIC find. Oh yeah, I found a solid brass pineapple door knocker. I jumped at the chance to make the $2.50 purchase, I mean I am a new first time homeowner and this seemed like a pretty epic score.  As I drove home, gloating over my purchase I felt like I needed to know the story.

First of all, pineapples originally come from Brazil & Paraguay. It became associated with places like the Caribbean after hundreds of years of Indian migration. The migration was the result of some obvious reasons, not the least of which, pineapple is delicious. Duh! But back then, that deliciousness was a pretty rare thing. Sugar and fresh fruits and vegetable basically cost a fortune so only the peeps with the biggest pocketbooks had access to this delectable treat.  It was in part because of this that pineapples started to be given as gifts as a symbol of friendship, generosity and hospitality. 

oh yea, you read that right, my address IS in fact 12345 because it isn't just my pineapple knocker that is awesome.

oh yea, you read that right, my address IS in fact 12345 because it isn't just my pineapple knocker that is awesome.

And this is what bring us today. Yes, I did just skip over a whole long part of history to jump on in to modern day and the purchase of my dope door knocker.

When I bought my first home a few months ago I knew that I wanted to make it a real representation of me and my personality. My hope is that someone would walk in the door and instantly know it was "Dawne's home". If they had never met me before, they would get a good sense of who I was, good bad or indifferent.

Come on in...

Come on in...

That is why I am so excited about this pineapple door knocker. Basically it is announcing to all who enter my home that this is a place for friendship and generosity and all are welcome. It says...

"hey world, it's pretty hospitable in this joint."

I get it. It's just a door knocker and oh man, trust me when I say I have a long way to go to making this, my first home, the home I want it to be. But promoting friendship, generosity and hospitality is not a bad place to start if you ask me.

What does your home say about you?

Twisted Pigtails and Princess Puff's...now that is a great marketing choice

The best part of Super Bowl 50 for me...Hands down. The only bummer...I never ACTUALLY saw any of these DURING THE SUPER BOWL.

not cool...

So...just in case you didn't get to see any of these...it is my gift to you.

I know this isn't a real post but why would I add words to something so cool on it's own?  I can't decide which one is my favorite, which one would you choose?

 

thank you for casting a vote for the kind of world you want...

I wanted to thank everyone for the overwhelming response to Wednesday's post: Bloomingdale's: another example of what is wrong with the profession of marketing". It was a difficult post for me to write because I struggled to be neutral. I am passionate about what I do and have a special place in my heart for marketing that is target to women because I understand what it means to capture the hearts and minds of the female consumer. There is power in supporting and lifting up women in today's culture like there has never been before. It is because of this that I fight for women every single day.

Your responses and readership to the post (my most successful post to date) let me know that there is outrage and concern out there. This concern doesn't just come from women but men as well. We want more from companies and brands and we will speak out about it and "vote with our wallets". It isn't about being a feminist or overly sensitive. It is about understanding the responsibility we hold when we broadcast a message to the world. You came in droves to read this post and whether that was out of curiosity, agreement or concern is irrelevant, you came, you read, you provided feedback both here and on social media and you shared. You may not realize this, but in doing that you helped support my purpose. This is no small thing to me. Thank you is not enough. 

If you see any marketing or advertising directed at women that you love and think lifts up women and girls, send them to  me. I would love to focus on the good stuff that is out there, and there IS good stuff out there. Let's talk about them and support their business...it's all about voting with our wallets.


bloomingdale's ad: another example of what is wrong with the profession of marketing

Actual Bloomingdale's ad from December 2015

Actual Bloomingdale's ad from December 2015

When I was a teenager, one of the pieces of advice I remember my mother giving me time and time again was to never accept a drink from a stranger and to make sure I kept my drink with me at all times. This was to avoid anyone being able to slip something in there and prevent all the dangers that could happen. I thought this was pretty good advice. Imagine my surprise when in December, there was an ad campaign for Bloomingdale's that promoted slipping something in someone's drink. In a holiday ad for the company, featuring a man and woman with the man "creepily" and " menacingly" looking at the woman in her holiday attire with the tagline "spike a friend's eggnog when they're not looking".

what?

Yes, I have expressed outrage over social media posts before and will probably do so again but I am so baffled by this one as a marketer. How is it possible that a room full of people saw this ad, the image, the copy and not ONE SINGLE person questioned whether or not it was a good idea?

how is this possible?

I have been in meetings with people to approve an ad and had multi hour meetings to discuss whether the wrinkle on a forehead or shadow on a cheek should be removed but this gets barely a secondary glance?
Now, there has been quite a lot of outrage in 2015 over a variety of different marketing campaigns or slogan t-shirts, red coffee cups that we could argue if "political correctness" has gone too far but this is not one of those instances. As with the family holiday card with women duct taped I posted about in December, how can anyone argue that this is a good or funny idea?

That's it? 

That's it? 

Bloomingdale's, in true "QUICK PR TACTIC" thinking released a statement on Twitter to apologize. First of all, you didn't hear "feedback", the public was not expressing concern over "sizing" or the colors you chose for your campaign. The public expressed OUTRAGE and DISGUST at the not so subtle advertising you CHOSE that promotes a culture of rape and abuse towards women.

BUT....well if you apologize then everything is better right? Where is the accountability Bloomingdale's? Yes, this ad was "inappropriate" or JUST PLAIN WRONG and IRRESPONSIBLE.  Poor taste? Isn't that sugar coating things just a bit? I mean let's really take a look at this ad and what it is conveying to women all over this country, who, by the way are the same people who have built your business by shopping in your stores...remember 80% of all purchases are influenced by women?

In the ad you see a lovely young woman who appears to be enjoying herself. You also see a man who does't actually seem to be enjoying himself at all. He is not engaging with the woman in any way, they do not look like friends at all. In fact he is "leering" at her. The image conveys no familial "best friend" relationship either, instead it looks like just about every "stalker" portrayed on Law & Order SVU each week, only he is handsome. OH WAIT, is that the deal? Because he is handsome, the woman should be more than okay with him "spiking her eggnog"? I mean what woman wouldn't want such a handsome man paying attention to her? If you cannot sense my anger and sarcasm here, let me assure you I am being sarcastic and I am quite angry.

I am going to put anger aside for a moment to try and understand this. As a marketer, your job is to appeal to consumers that have the potential to buy your products, shop at your stores and support your brand. I think we can all agree on that simplified definition. Bloomingdale's, like many high end department stores are known for appealing to affluent women. You can make that assumption simply by walking in to these stores and the mix of product by gender. These stores typically have a much higher ration of women's products than men's. This alone should have caused some raised eyebrows when the campaign went around the table. I mean, what women is going to look at this and think "great ad, I need to go shop now"?

But wait...in 2012 Bloomingdale's was actually going after the affluent male consumer "Bloomingdale’s elevates in-store presence via BMW, GQ pop-up shops." Hmm...okay, that is 3 years ago but it could still be part of their strategy and with that approach to a male consumer, maybe they are less concerned with how a female might read this ad? But...even so, nobody said anything in that marketing meeting to raise concern over how this ad might be received? There is mention in this article about what a "good marketer" should be concerned with. I wonder if that quote was meant to be sarcastic?

With so many amazing marketing people looking for jobs in today's economy it continues to shock me that the people who continually get hired know nothing about consumer habits and thought processes. It amazes me that people still don't raise their hand when something is glaringly wrong. I realize that our profession isn't curing cancer but we still have a moral obligation to the people we market to. Yes, at the end of the day you could simplify the concept of marketing into the idea that it is JUST about selling a product or a brand but did this ad EVEN do that? Here in lies the struggle I have with our profession. We have to make numbers but we also have to be able to sleep at night knowing that we put something into the world that doesn't destroy it. 

Campaigns, words and imagery like this may get your name in the paper but do very little else. If you truly want to focus on the numbers and business growth then you have to think long term. How does something like this keep you in the game long term? It doesn't. It alienates your consumers old and new. 

25% or by someone women know in an intimate way while 5% are committed by a relative -    RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network

25% or by someone women know in an intimate way while 5% are committed by a relative - RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network

Bloomingdale's, thank you for your apology but it does little to comfort me and the many woman in this country who are faced with the very real scenario of violence, rape and sexual assault in our lives every single day. The cause of this fear isn't just "strangers" and bad guys, it is the people we know, it is the people in our community. It isn't a funny joke or over-exaggeration, it is a real part of what we experience as women. The promotion, mocking and suggestion of anything that perpetuates this is not only offensive and disgusting but it is an irresponsible marketing and business practices that you should be ashamed of.

Don't apologize to us on Twitter and think that it is enough. Make a commitment to do something more. Show some accountability for your actions and the actions of your team. Make your marketing and executive team get educated on not just spreadsheets and numbers but of consumer segments, psychology, sociology and gender. Make a commitment to be responsible to your customers.

goals require you put some skin in the game

I know I should have shared my goals with you before the 1st of the year and for that I apologize. If I am being honest, I started to a number of times but realized that like me, most of you probably were busy with friends and family and the hullabaloo that comes with the holiday and might not have the time to read blogs. So, I made the choice to wait until things settled a bit. 

This last step in the process is a little intense so I decided to only share with you one goal from each of my areas of focus. This way, you would be able to see the depth of information you should assign to each goal without getting mired in reading a 20 page blog entry.  


Health & Wellness

To Lose 25 Pounds by April 6, 2016

Goal:


Walk 10,000 steps or more each day

Eat 9 fruits or vegetables daily

No Fast Food

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to reduce sickness and allergy outbreaks

to be a better example to parents of why health is key

to boost self estee

Attach a Why:

 

 

Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source:    Redfin

Holding my breath for the inspection this week. - Image Source: Redfin


financial stability, growth & flexibility

Buy a house by April 2016

Goal:


Work directly with financial adviser to allocate funds accordingly

limit wasteful spending - less trips to Target (sad but necessary)

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:

 

 


to create a home base (stability)

investment for future

To stop using frivolous spending as a creature comfort

Attach a Why:

Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source:    @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com

Day of the Girl with Girls Inc. PNW. - Image Source: @2015 d-talx llc. www.dawnehanks.com


purpose & passion

To book 5-10 speaking opportunities by June 2016

Goal:


Research local organizations, schools & universities for opportunities

Reach out to contacts with press-kit

build video profile on gigsalad and other speaker & experience forums

start writing

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


Create base audience for expansion

build experience and connections

opportunity to live my dream

this is where the dream starts - it is the conduit for all other changes & opportunities to happen

Attach a Why:


love & relationships

NOTE: This was the most difficult one for me to work on this year and to share in a public forum. Because of this it may seem the least thought out. Please understand that it is very thought out but I am still working on understanding what this means for me. Like most things in life, it is a serious work in progress.

Meaningful conversations and meetings with loved ones monthly

Goal:


Talk to people, don't rely on text

Work to meet new people

Call and meet "just because"

no technology distractions

Quantify Outcome BE SPECIFIC:


It's no fun being alone and harder to maintain friendships as we age and people get married and have kids

find someone to share experiences, travel etc. with

to open up and trust more - being open to experiences and people

Attach a Why:


There you have it. A goal for each of my areas of focus in 2016. Hopefully this helps you commit your goals to paper and get 2016 off to a great start. Thanks for sticking with the 31 day goal setting challenge and sharing your experiences with me in the comments, emails and in social media. 2015 was a strange and interesting year. There were a lot of changes in my life with health and work and even location but I know like most storms, clear skies are ahead. Thank you for sticking with me and showing interest in what I have to say and helping be a witness to my adventure. Looking forward to great things in 2016.

habits make the man...err...woman

Anytime you make a goal or decide to "fix" something in life it is going to require some changes in your habits.

agggghhhhh

If you have ever walked around a bookstore then I'm sure you have noticed that people talk a lot about "change" and "habits" in self-help books. Apparently, that is because as a culture, we don't tend to enjoy change so much. How else do you explain the popularity of a book called "Who Moved my Cheese"?

habits make the man...err. woman

Let's define habits based on the categories we listed on Monday that might help us meet our more specific goals that we finalize next week. As a reminder, here are the categories, I am focused on.

  • health & wellness

  • love & relationships

  • financial stability, growth & flexibility

  • purpose & passion

Did you define your's yet? NO? Well don't forget to check out Monday's post to catch up with us. "What are you going to pay attention to in 2016?" Once you have your categories of focus, it is time to determine what habits need to be part of our daily life to help us along our journey. Here are some of mine. Remember, try to have no more than 12. When you focus on too much, very little actually happens.

  • wake up with out snoozing

  • take vitamins daily

  • walk/work out daily

  • stop the glorification of busy

  • no fast food - cook more - more veggies

  • stretch daily

  • stop over-exaggerating and being overly dramatic - be okay with reality

  • love & relationships

  • initiate communication with friends & family better

  • remember special days and do things just because

  • gratitude journal and meditation daily

  • news/blogs - focused on my purpose

  • It's on the DVR, you can watch it later

I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

I found my list from a couple years back too...thought I would share it to give you a little more inspiration and examples. #waybackwednesday

There you go, my...now it is your turn. It's the last step until we put pen to paper with a goal for each area of focus.

Can't wait to close out the challenge with all of you.

what are you going to pay attention to in 2016?

It doesn't have to look pretty...thank goodness, you just have to do it.

It doesn't have to look pretty...thank goodness, you just have to do it.

Remember in school when you were given a writing assignment and you just went in and wrote your paper. It was a good paper. You were on fire. I mean, it may have been the best writing the world had ever seen, we're talking possible Pulitzer here. 

then you turned it in.

There were red  marks all over it. How dare someone mess with the next great american literature masterpiece! There was one glaring consistency in the red scribble across the page...did you make an outline first? Where is the structure?

After muttering under your breath, you think to yourself "how the heck did the teacher know I didn't do an outline or a rough draft?" or maybe you thought "my kind of literary genius doesn't need a rough draft." 

don't act like you never thought it...

Well, just like high school English class, it is important to outline your goals before you  just jump in all willy nilly. You want to make sure you know what direction you want your goals to head. In short, it helps to define where you want to focus your energies.

i promise this won't hurt

It is actually really simple, think about all of the notes you have been taking and the thoughts you have had about what you might want to focus on in 2016 and then put them into some overarching categories. Don't overdue it. Sometimes we set so many goals, it is impossible to focus on all of them. This will help you reduce and refine once you get to your overall goals. 

List the core areas of life you want to get results

Here is an example of my categories to help spark some creative thinking...

  • Health & Wellness

  • Love & Relationships

  • Financial Stability & Growth & Flexibility

  • Purpose & Passion

That's it. That is all you have to focus on today. Later in the week we will start actually putting our goals down into the areas of focus you specified and be on our way to starting kicking butt in 2016.

If you have questions, don't hesitate to ask them in the comment section below.

silencing women does not create peace on earth

I am taking a break from our goal setting challenge today because of a news story that has been making the rounds and causing some controversy.

Silencing the women in a family is not funny. 

Silencing the women in a family is not funny. 

A family from Louisiana decided to do something a little different for their Christmas card this year. Upon doing so a firestorm was created on social media . Before I go on, let me stress that in no way do I think that this family or photographer intended to promote violence against women (as many of the comments on social media elude to). I do however think that this points to a larger problem, this family didn't see why this image might be sending the wrong message

So, why is it the wrong message? This picture  creates the illusion that silencing women of all ages is okay.

it is not!

It implies that getting women to shut-up can be celebrated with a thumbs up.

it cannot!

It implies that silencing a woman can be laughed at with a witty tagline.

it cannot. 


Research shows that the first step to violence and terrorism against any group of people is that of dehumanizing them. Making them less than human by reducing them to a body part or an object, or even by silencing them. All of this is destructive but the silencing is the one that hits me the hardest.

It can be argued that most people are looking to be heard. What happens when we take that option away? When we take away a person's voice, we take away their ability to fight, to be heard, to be understood. We become less than in our own head. We become unhappy, unsatisfied, uninspired. 

Rather than ramble on about the research, check out this amazing series by    Jean Kilbourne    to learn more about gender in the media.

Rather than ramble on about the research, check out this amazing series by Jean Kilbourne to learn more about gender in the media.

Some of you may be reading this and think that I am giving this photo/concept way too much energy but you would be wrong. There is a wealth of evidence to back me up. 

I studied "communications" in school. I decided it had a broader reach than a traditional marketing degree. With this I chose to spend a large part of my time studying gender and kids. I knew that this is the direction that the business world was going and wanted to better understand the consumer that I would potentially be marketing too. I now work in marketing and realize the approach I took is rare. Very few if any marketers actually take course work focused on gender, psychology or sociology. Maybe a class here or there, but no real emphasis on it. This is why I struggle with my profession.  At it's core, marketing is convincing people to buy, do or act. It works with the psyche and what motivates people. It is great responsibility. 

Unfortunately, it seems sometimes like marketers are worse than the stereotypes of lawyers. I say that because in my experience very few people in marketing actually know anything beyond the "business" part of marketing. Marketing is so much more than that. It is about knowing how people think, what they desire and why and using that information for good. How can you do this if you don't know anything beyond the numbers?

Marketing shapes the way we look at the world, whether we like to admit it or not. Marketing and media shapes the way we see and feel about ourselves subconsciously, it convinces us what we want and what we need. Herein lies the responsibility. Do we use this power to do good and make the world better or do we use it to make a buck? Are they mutually exclusive? 

I would argue they are not.


From Killing Me Softly

From Killing Me Softly

We live in a visual society, one that puts emphasis on "seeing is believing". Instagram has exploded on the scene, as has Snap Chat and a number of other social networks that focus solely on imagery. A picture is worth a thousand words, right? If it is that how can we remain complacent with imagery like this family photo or any of the images on this post? How can we claim ignorance as to what these image are really saying?

How can you call yourself a marketer if you don't know how consumers digest the imagery and content you are putting in the universe?

my opinion? you can't.

I could continue to go on about this but realize this is an much bigger subject than a single blog post. So I will come down from my soap box for a minute and get back to the point Did this family have ill intent when creating this holiday card? of course not. Does it speaker to a larger problem in our society? Of course it does. I couldn't let today go by without at least addressing it. I won't apologize for this big soap box because I believe so full heartedly in it but I will work to better formulate my thoughts for future posts.

 

I would like to say one more thing regarding the "witty tagline" that says "peace on earth". The silencing of women will not create "PEACE ON EARTH". In fact, it is the attempted silencing of women that is causing so much destruction, war and terror on this place we called Earth. 

Ready...Set...GOAL

The time has come. Self reflection has occurred and now we need to get to work. This s the hard part because you actually have to put pen to paper and plan.

but how?

I would love to tell you that I did this but THIS IS NOT MINE. I found it online and was like WOAH, holy moly this person is a    talented doodler. 

I would love to tell you that I did this but THIS IS NOT MINE. I found it online and was like WOAH, holy moly this person is a talented doodler. 

I mean we have all these ideas but generally when it is time to put them to paper they just fly right out of our minds. I hate when that happens. Here is what I do. I am a scribbler. I cannot seem to focus on anything unless there is a piece of paper in front of me and I can scribble, doodle or just in general make the ink move across the page. OH YES, I was the girl who wrote down the name of my crush on my notebook a hundred times surrounded  by hearts. I even have old projects from school like a wooden toolbox that is scribbled all over with the names of boys, cool phrases (well I thought they were cool in the 7th grade) and miscellaneous other things I cant even decipher all these years later. The same can be said for my work notes. I never have to wonder about someone stealing my secrets because you would need a decoder ring to get through my notes.

strangely though, this is actually productive for me. It channels my thoughts and somewhere in the mess of undecipherable doodles and hearts galore, a plan takes place. Now I realize that not everyone's brain works the same way mine does BUT I am here telling you what works for me, so it can't hurt to try right?

So get some sort of notebook (hopefully, the same one you have been using for your reflections the last 16 days). Sit in front of the TV or some other form of entertainment that is relaxing yet not too intense. (In other words, watch mindless TV that doesn't require too much attention...no back episodes of Game of Thrones, Lost or House of Cards here, you don't want to get too distracted.) The distraction here is actually your notebook NOT the tv. 

Sadly, not mine either. I was struggling with my computer and images today so had to use some from online...but how cool are they? Love this by    Bea Barros

Sadly, not mine either. I was struggling with my computer and images today so had to use some from online...but how cool are they? Love this by Bea Barros

Every few seconds, write something down. It can be a sentence, a word, a cute little drawing, whatever you want. It should however be related to something you would like to do next year. Maybe it is small like "lost 20 pounds". Maybe it is bigger like "get a raise" or "have a baby". Doesn't matter. No further details are needed today. All you have to do is scribble all the possibilities. We will dig into them later and organize them into something that looks like goals with real tangible action items to them. For now just scribble and jot things down. No pressure. Not coming up with anything, look up at the tv and laugh along with Leonard and Sheldon. Turn on some music, grab a hairbrush and dance around the room a bit...boom idea comes to you, jot it down and keep dancing. 

The only rule...try to fill AT LEAST one who piece of paper with your thoughts. If it takes a couple days, that's ok. Just keep your notebook near by and grab it when an inspiring thought hits you. 

That's it. Wednesday goal setting work complete. We are at the half way point everyone. That means we are about to finish the year ahead of the game because we are going to have a plan for 2016 that takes us all to the next level.

can I get a what what?

My apologies, I got a little excited there. If you did raise the roof and say "what what", my sincerest gratitude. If you didn't, give it time, you might get excited as you start writing things down. For those that did it but don't want to admit it...it's ok, I get it. Maybe next time.